My DD read text messages on her dad’s phone
Please tell me how to handle this! My DD apparently found an old phone of my ex's and went through it and read all sorts of stuff during the time him and I were splitting up. There were things in there neither one of us wanted our kids to see. Things were said, accusations, mistakes were made, name calling. It was BAD. But, that was 5 years ago and him and I are in a really good place now but she read all this (she's 15) and is now falling apart. I'm upset that she snooped and now she is hurting and feels "lied to" which of course isn't the case. We just didn't tell her details obviously!!! My ex thinks I cheated on him and accused me left and right (this wasn't the case) but now my DD thinks this because of him accusing me. This was just one of the hundreds of issues going on with us. There was financial abuse on his part, he was already with his now wife before he even moved out. I don't care. The marriage was far over but of course he deleted their conversations and left the ones of him accusing ME of crap. I was no angel either. I said some really nasty things to him but divorce is ugly. We are completely over it and have both moved on and have a great coparent relationship. In fact, we get along way better now than when we were married! But It's a damn mess and I honestly don't know how to even begin to tackle this.