STRAINED relationship between DH and his Daughter
I've posted on here a lot lately about how SD10 prefers BMs house. She has been vocal about it lately. Well DH finally confronted her yesterday on the phone when she called.
She has her OWN phone at BMs house and free access to it. She never calls DH. She didn't call and wish him a Happy New Year. Literally, the ONLY time she calls is "Can I stay at Mom's another day/weekend/etc." SD10 called yesterday AGAIN with the same request.
Well I guess DH reached his breaking point. He told me he just let it all out. "It hurts my feelings that you only call to ask if you can stay longer. When you are at our house you are constantly calling BM to chat, check on her etc. I never get a phone call. You NEVER ask to stay at our house extra, but EVERY week you're asking to stay at your Mom's. You have everything you could possibly want/need here, but because we have rules, you'd rather be at your Mom's because you get to do whatever you want (no bedtime, own cell phone, junk food, no helmet on skateboard, doesn't do homework, the list goes ON). We have 50/50 for a reason. I'm looking at for what's best for you."
DH didn't tell me what SD had to say after that. I just let him vent and didn't ask any questions. Part of me feels good that the target isn't on my back... part of me feels TERRIBLE for DH because I know how SD treats him really hurts him... part of me is GLAD that he is seeing her for how she truly is. Is that terrible?
Question for everyone... do I offer input for DH? Do I just stay out of it since it's his relationship with his daughter?
Side note: I feel like he's honestly doing everything he can. He has gotten her to the pediatrician for anxiety and ADHD medicine finally. He has gotten her a therapist to start counseling. I feel like he is at a loss for what to do... :/