Am i asking for too much?
Hi, i'd love some advice on this issue as i don't know whether i am asking for too much here.
I have posted about an issue between Steps before on the forum but SO and i talked and we were ok - i think it was the initial shock of SKs living with us and i had other personal things going on at the time.
Now we've hit another bump in the road and i'd like some advice on whether i'm asking too much. We've been together 7yrs.
So background on other halfs day - weekdays...
Wakes son up (age 12) (wake up straight away) gets on with getting ready etc. Wakes daughter up (16 in dec) spends about half hour doing this before she's up. Goes to do school run, goes back to work or is home working a few hour due to covid. Picks kids up and does homework with them, chills with them, we have dinner around 6-6:30pm and then we chill again and he makes sure they have shower time. Son has shower 8pm, SO will chill with him for 15min or so. Daughter showers after, SO will keep her company for however long usually til around 10pm. Daughter currently online learning from school due to covid so shes in her room working or doing homework, if other half is home he will be with her most of this duration.
Weekends kids will be with their mum or with other half and whatever he is doing.
Ok so i totally understand he has to help them with homework and anything else which they need help with or are unable to do. I work from home and i do see other half for a cigarette in the garden for 5 mins throughout the day otherwise not til about 10-half 10 in the evening. My issue is with him not setting any boundaries. We spoke about this on Monday about boundaries and us having some time together everyday so maybe 9-9.30 he leaves them to it and it's our time after that and he said yes we do need time together. Tueday - he has totally ignored this and comes down after being with his daughter at 10. Wednesday he comes down at 9pm til 10 then goes for 45min to chill with daughter again.
I feel like his daughter takes up literally all his time and the only time other half comes to me is when he wants to be intimate. I feel like i'm not as important as the daughter in his life and so will always come last (also i understand that kids must come first - when they're struggling or need help otherwise should be equal between kids and myself). He doesn't seem too bothered.
Am i asking too much for us to spend time together each day? Please advice if i am asking too much or what i can do that might help or anything really.