This is hopefully going to be a positive post. I saw the SD's at my SO's place this weekend. SD16 is having a hard time with her Halloween costume. She's at the age and size where the children's costumes don't fit, and the women's costumes are too big and too revealing. She also is terribly self conscious.
Here's where I may be both a sucker and a sap. I collect vintage theatre costumes. Not plastic bagged costumes, but ones that have been used in stage and film production. I have a wardrobe full of them in all sizes, with vintage accessories to match. It just stemmed from wishing I had a costume trunk when I was a little girl, to actually creating one when I had the means.
SD16's costume doesn't fit, and she couldn't find one in the adult section that she was comfortable with. So, and bearing in mind all the trouble I've expressed about her, I've offered her the pick of my costume closet. Almost everything is washable and in great condition ; I'd only ask that she not eat while wearing it. She said she can't believe that I'd let her even try something on from my collection.
I never wear this stuff, and I love to see other people have fun with it. I can put the delicate accessories away so she won't be tempted by them. Am I being naive about this? Or is this a good thing to do for a young woman who's having trouble accepting her changing size? I really don't care if she gets mud on the dress. But am I being hypocritical for complaining about her, but wanting to help her?