Taking a poll.. is this ok?
Alrightee..so as mentioned before. I am living w my man paying in toward his house that he now calls our house. (documents putting me on the deed etc are in the works). SD (26) and husband live here and do not pay anything. They are aware I am paying in.
This house belonged to BF and xwife. She left him hanging w a huge second mortgage and other debt which he has cleaned up. There was also physical abuse on her part--throwing stuff, pulling down furniture, locking him and daughter out of house etc. They have been divorced 7 years.
SD got married a month ago and xwife was actually very nice and was respectful and wished me an BF well. We made the best of it..
xwife never visits--but today she just decided to stop by. I don't like it and it feels awkward. I was out doing errands when SD at least had the courtesy to "warn" me....
She was nice when I came in, but I still don't like it.
Heres my question..be gentle lol
I talked w my fb (calmly) about the unscheduled visit as he as at work. He feels that I should accept these visits because she is his SD mom. I get that. He also said since SD is preggo that might be the reason for a visit. I don't know if xwife called the SD first before coming. As previously stated in my first blog, SD has said she and husband are moving before baby comes in 8 mo.
is it unreasonable for me to say I don't want the xwife here? Like ever? lol and as of now--not waiting until they move?
BF did rethink his initial position of --she never visits and it's only until they move..
He said he is sorry this happened to me and that we can all discuss when he gets home..and come up w a system to make me comfy.
And yes, I have redecorated some of our house to reflect my taste and will do more as I go and even more when SD leaves..
ok go ahead let me have it....