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Texashley33's picture

I've been wondering why the ex wife has been driving by our house more lately..i found out she just moved into a house very close by! Ugh! What's weird is she drove by on September 11th and then October 13th. Like around the same time of each month wth!? First time I noticed she was in a toyota hatchback..the second time in a chevy car. Who lets this psycho drive/borrow their vehicles!? She has 2 DWI's and lost her job and got evicted from her home. I'm sure her ridiculous parents got her this other house. I feel like they all plotted together to make sure it was as close to our house as possible! 

tog redux's picture

If you are watching close enough to know what day she drives by and the make of the car she is driving, it's time to give her less space in your head.

Texashley33's picture

I'm sure she drives by more..those are just the times I was outside doing yard work and saw a strange vehicle drive by slowly, and it ended up being her! How about she needs to f****** mind her own business and quit stalking me. Pretty sad she takes other peoples cars to drive by our house. Eventually we are moving far away to Montana, and she can have her terrible kid (SS17) and they won't know where the hell we went. When I'm not thinking about her, her parents, and the SS17 that lives with us permanently, and how angry they've all made me, THERE she is giving me an evil glare when I'm out jogging, or at the grocery store. I've really had enough. Nobody understands.

Sandybeaches's picture

Anyone with a crazy BM in their life knows that you have to keep track of their crazy behavior when it is related to you and your home.  You may need this information for the police when you catch her in your back yard looking in your window.  Just a figure of speech but you get my meaning.  You need the history to get a restraining order if you need one so best to keep track.

Crazy has to be kept track of it can't be ignored.  

tog redux's picture

Eh, BM here is crazy, but at a certain point, focusing on what they do all the time will make YOU crazy. Driving by someone's house when you live in the neighborhood is not threatening behavior.  And she might not be "borrowing people's cars" just to drive by, she might not have a car of her own and be borrowing to do errands.

OP, get an outside camera and try to get on with your own life. Until she does something truly threatening, try not to give her too much space in your head. 

Texashley33's picture

Yes she and her son have brought out the worst in me. I feel angry and crazy. I try to forget about it all, and then BOOM there she is again giving me an evil look at the grocery store etc. Or she has her parents call us and send gifts to SS17. We got a call from bail bonds asking if we want to bail her out of jail..ummm no. SS17 lies all the time, and I can't stand him even living with us. It's been 15 years of this drama and it needs to end. When SS is 18 soon, I am wanting him to go live with BM..then they will finally be out of the picture, and I can finally feel like myself again, and heal from this. My Husband is also tired of SS17's behaviour, and has even mentioned him moving in with BM. I really could write a horror novel about BM and SS. 

Lifer33's picture

Get her booked for harassment? If she's intentionally driving by your house or turning up everywhere you are and glaring at you surely this is intimidation? I would only ever have to see bm if I chose to be on my driveway contact times, I don't, but equally she wouldn't dare make eye contact. So your situation just sounds like she's deliberately trying to wind you up, no wonder you're angry 

Texashley33's picture

Yes! Thank you! Somebody gets it. She got crazy jealous when she found out her ex husband..my now husband..was dating me and then started blowing up his phone asking questions about me and wanting to "meet" me. I kept telling him I don't want to meet her. So she then started stalking me and driving around me in the College parking lot, and texting him asking him to meet me. We realized that was her in her Mazda was circling around us in the parking lot..so I agreed to meet her to make her stop. BAD IDEA. She became more jealous and crazy and started inviting us to things. Threw a bday party for SS, when she never cared to before..and invited us. While we were there she had her friend come up to me and ask me if we were engaged already bc she noticed my ring he got me. She was doing this while she was pregnant with her new boyfriends baby. Then one night she had to drop off some medicine..another game she was playing, using SS to get at me..she slammed the truck door in our faces after telling me CONGRATS GIRL on the engagement! Then she started trying to tell my now Husabnd that her new fiance was beating her and SS. It was all a lie. Then she invited us to their wedding..ummm no thank you that's weird. She cheated on him on their HONEY MOON..he couldn't find her for 5 hours on the cruise ship and when he did..she was in another man's room! They soon divorced and now she has 3 kids with 2 ex husbands and gave up custodial rights to the 2 girls with her second ex and lost custody of my SS17 for leaving him alone in a hotel room AND making him miss 87 days of school! Her parents ALWAYS take her side even though she's really bad and breaks the law. Her Dad is an ex cop. Go figure. Not her real Dad bc she's adopted, but she would always use her Dad to get out of things. She sued her best friends Mom and her company bc they "wrongfully fired her" for not ever coming to work. She tried to sue us recently for custody back, but lost and no there's no telling what she and her parents are plotting to do next before SS turns 18 in April. 

Texashley33's picture

She stalked me at my job also. She found out I worked at a gym, and then signed up to start working out there. She also got right behind me on the workout equipment and started staring at me. I took out my phone and took a pic of her behind me, and she got off the equipment fast and went to the other side of the gym. Then she started working out there with random guys, and she would make really loud sexual noises while throwing the weight ball. Just really sick. She started seeing a guy that ended up going to jail for embezzlement..and also dated a lawyer and he was disbarred. She also has her mom try to call me, and asked me to join Snapchat and Marco Polo so they can video me and sue me, I'm assuming, and then she calls her and they gossip about me..i know this for a fact. We don't answer any calls or texts from any of them at all anymore. Her parents moved to Florida to get away from her, those are their words, bc she was causing them to fight and the mom kept having nervous breakdowns. Now we find out that they were helping her sue us! They were mad she lost and they knew she was in trouble for another DWI. SS17 texted them and told them all to leave us all alone and to stop harassing us with gifts every month. So now I'm just waiting for them to pull something within the next 6 months bc he's almost 18. When he's 18 the contract is up.