Grown stepdaughter and stepson are thorns in my side
Husband and I are in our upper 40's.
Have known husband for total of 8 years
Seriously dated husband for 3 years
Married husband 2 years ago
We have been trying to have a baby together
He has a grown son and daughter (both in upper 20's) their bio-mom lives miles away, talks trash about me and my hubsand to the stepkids, and she never loved my husband when she was married to him.
Stepkids have always had a under-the-radar manipulation and hatred towards me. They won't let their dad see any glimpse of it. They only do it when he isnt around.....BUT THE KICKER IS: THEY STILL LIVE IN THE HOUSE with us!!!!! He had always made excuses of them not being ready to be on their own yet!!! How is it going take? I told him they need to be out by next summer!!!!
My marriage is based on our love and know that we are soulmates....but the whole 2 yrs of our marriage has been a constant emotional struggle for me...always arguing with my husband over the sneaky and disrepectful things his kids do, that he doesnt want see. Its sad that this is really the only bad area in our marriage (that looks like I might be the one that will lose in the long run!)
Because of events and grown stepdaughter's clingyness, I told my husband before we got married that I will not compete with his daughter for HIM. ....FAST FORWARD- I'm still feeling like his grown daughter is so overly jealous and clingy and acts like she is his wife....they act like gatekkeepers over their dad...Dammit I'm tired of trying to get my husband to see them for who they are and to get them to move out!!! And to get my husband to put more effort towards this marriage to me and to stop doing and saying things to patch up the problem instead of fixig the problem!!!
Any sggestions on how to help open my husband's eyes to their manipulation and to his refusal to make them move out? Thanks.