Ignoring the red flags..
I'll try not to go into too much detail. I live in a soap opera. BM has far too much control. My partner allows it. Their kids are disrespectful and the behavior gets ignored because he doesn't want to deal with BM. We haven't been intimate more than a handful of times in the last year. It doesn't matter that we just had a baby. I'm in my 20s. My sex drive isn't the issue. I've noticed a pattern though. He's drawn to me after a conflict with his BM. I've chosen to ignore that. I ignore the fact that he puts her before anything else. Himself, his kids, me.
I have a friends wedding coming up. It falls on a weekend that he has the kids. Rather than let my mom watch them for a few hours and go with me he's just going to stay home. This will be yet another event that I have to attend by myself because he doesn't want to piss her off.
I'm tired and angry and I feel like packing up and walking away. I'm tired of being put last. He has told me that things could get better for nearly two years. I should have seen it a long time ago and recognized the fact that things will never change. This is just another toxic relationship that I've drawn myself into and now I'm tied to him for 18 year.