Bf, the military, COVID-19, and BM
Mostly off topic, but also has to do with step life too. So as most of you know, my bf is in the marine corps. Some of you know how in the PSA, BM was supposed to be moving back to her home state between June 1 & September 1 of this year, for bf to drop off SD at home state on September 1. Well, as of right now, BM is staying in VA, so drop off will be in VA, not the other state. Originally, bf, myself, and SD were going to travel to the home state at the end of August to visit bf’s dad, drop off SD, then go and do some other things around the area. BM not moving put a bit of a wrench in our plan in staying in VA, but then we decided we will just return on August 30th to drop off SD to BM. Bf had put in leave from work for a week to do this trip. Well, my bf’s company (may even be the wrong word, hard for me to keep track), put out last week that they are in Phase 0 of the COVID-19 plan…. Meanwhile VA is about to enter Phase 3… They had to sign a paper saying that they are not traveling anywhere outside of their home, getting groceries, gas, going to work, etc, that they are not visiting with any family or anyone that is not a DEERS registered dependent, and all these other things, no matter what the federal and state government says is okay. This is all in effect until the marine corps says it is not and if they break any of those things that they agree that they will be up for whatever administrative punishment is given. Plus does not matter if they sign or not because they all were given a copy. You got to be f**king kidding me right? So in other words, technically, my bf should not be at our apartment with me whether we are both on the lease or not because we are not married.
So there goes our plan in July to visit my family for a week and his dad in August. I will still be going to see my family actually for a bit longer now because bf, myself, and SD will go up on a Friday, bf will stay the weekend then go back to work for the week to then come back the next weekend. As for seeing his dad, that will have to wait till the fall or winter because they are saying this might be in order until November. I feel bad for bf’s dad because the whole point was for him to see SD while we had her. The only way we could still maybe go is if BM was moving to the state she was supposed to because then we would just have to submit these papers with the address of where we are taking SD and that BM will not come get the child because it is in their custody order, bf does all the transportation, etc. So basically bf and in turn me in some ways are grounded by the military because the colonel of my bf’s company enacted this stupid ruling now, but when it was all popping off badly in March, April, and May, said no you still need to come to work and I don’t care what the state says about social distancing or any of it. Ugh, I am not even trying to blame BM because whatever, she decided not to move, we think because she met someone, but this is not her fault.
Also, in case anyone was wondering, BM called SD for the first time in two weeks this weekend.