I’ve been reading posts on here for the last year or so and have had so many major laughs because this is how my life is. So now I’m making my first post. I have 2 skid Ss19,SD17,and BD4. DH and I have been married for 4 years. My DH is a Disney Dad and make excuses for his bio children. When we first started dating, I knew that SS was hardheaded, but when it was his weekends to have them, I wanted that time to be for them. I thought I was doing something great. I work with children so I know how important for children to have strong relationships with parents. SS is very smart and should be in someone’s college. He was living with us after BM kicked him out. Child support is over so he had to go. While he was here he did absolutely nothing but sleep all day and eat all night. I began to become very angry because all he did was make excuses for SS not working nor enrolling in college. In January, he had to go for being disrespectful to me and I said to my DH you can go with him if you don’t like what I’m saying. During our argument, my sS stated that he didn’t know me nor did he like me. I gave him those same words back. He had to live with the grandmother. She is now fed up with him. Word is he’s going to live with the grandfather in another state. I truly don't believe that is going to work either. Last week, DH asked me to put SS on my health insurance, and I ask “What about his mother?” He became very upset I said I don’t care about his kids. Am I wrong for saying for saying “No?” Now on to the SD. She plays her dad and all who will listen to her sad story about I don’t like her. When I first heard this a few years ago, I called the BM to ensure her that wasn’t true. BM said the she was studying for finals. I said well get back to me when she is done. I didn’t want to disrupt her studying. She never called. When I call her out on her behavior, I only hear that I don’t like her. Last year at her brothers graduation, she invited her friends to stay over. My husband knows I am not a fan of sleepovers, he allowed it anyway. I was livid. Then the BM came over and was at my house talking sh** about me again not liking her kids. I found this out after the party. My MIL stood up for me as I was told. SD stole a jewelry of mine, DH said to me, "but she gave it back." That’s not the point. Both of them have been caught stealing at school and from stores, it’s never their fault, it’s everyone’s else fault. DH now has left because I did not go to a daughters graduation dinner and the BM was going to be there. I do not feel comfortable being around her. Which DH knows. We do not like each other. If was a dinner that we had planned, no problem. I have never mistreated them, always tried to remember birthdays and Christmas presents. I stopped that and started disengagement especially since I supposedly not like. I am tired and it feels like I’m in a losing battle.