I am glad someone noticed too
So as you know my twins graduated, so on a whim we decided to throw a small get together with DH family as they live within the state. To be fair it was only about 4 days’ notice which isn’t a lot. We were just going to grill in the backyard and such with only family. It was more of a Sunday lunch than an actual party.
Anyway Skids declined stating they had other plans and could not make it. MIL wanted us to change the date to accommodate Skids and ensure they can make it. I told her it isn’t a big deal that they are not coming because it was just a small gathering. We also intend on doing a bigger celebration at a later date. The twins nor DH cared either because it’s not a big deal and it was a bit of a whim.
Well guess what MIL decided she wasn’t coming and encouraged SIL (DH’s sister) and her family not to come because she will not be involved in the exclusion of other family members. Now how ironic because there are so many events that Skids throw that we are never invited to but I never hear her get on Skids back about it. In fact, she has been to SS and SDIL house, neither DH, Dkids nor I have ever been, yet she has never come to DH or DKids defense about exclusion by Skids. Dkids were not included in sibling wedding pictures and she did not take a stand. Per MIL when Skids excludes it is DH parenting at fault. It is always the parents fault according to her.
Anyway MIL may have convinced DH’s sister not to come but his brother came. We also had a lovely time might I add. DH’s SIL and and I had an interesting conversation. She told me that she always felt that MIL loved Skids more than the other Gkids. She was pragmatic in that MIL probably played ‘mommy’ to skids when they lived with her during and after the divorce. So she has a greater bond with Skids. For years I have struggled with this and the fact that everyone in DH’s family seems to ignore this. MIL was always covert about it too so sometimes I thought it was in my head. It’s like finally my impressions about her aren’t unfounded.