I think a part of what I find so frustrating with my husband's family at large is that they have a very different culture of gift-giving then I grew up with. They often expect very extravagant gifts but give things that they pretty obviously found on sale. I don't mind getting an inexpensive gift if they are thoughtful but there have been times where they will leave my husband out of the gift-giving occasion while requesting something extravagant. My family usually request practical things but are always gracious no matter what we give each other because we all tend to try to give pretty thoughtful gifts.
SILs: they will not subtly send my husband pictures of the expensive things that they want in a unprompted way and usually not even a holiday. one sister-in-law actually sent my husband a bunch of screenshots of bicycles that she wants just the other week. Her birthday isn't until July. The other sister in law complain to us after her baby shower that we didn't get her enough. He had actually gotten a pretty significant amount of toys and clothing but she did not bother to make a note of who got her what.
SD12: she will send a link to something expensive that she wants and instruct DH to mail it to her house. she often times doesn't even get her physical Christmas presents until Easter because she has no interest in getting any gifts unless it is something specific that she asked for and is mailed to her. It's all about the item not about the visit. SD never gives anything. she's a child so I know she's not going to be able to go out and buy very much if anything but she doesn't even draw a card or do any other homemade gift even though she enjoys making crafts.
MIL: my mother-in-law we'll split up a set of baby clothes to give the items to multiple people yet she will request a brand new computer for mother's Day. The last time my husband spoke to her she said that since I got my mother a new computer for Christmas she wanted one too. my husband had not even asked her what she wanted for mother's Day she came out on her own asking this. by the way the computer I got from my mother was a Chromebook that was a steal at about $200 that my mom needed for her work. MIL expects a MacBook pro and is unemployed and not even taking classes right now
My DH: my husband will not usually ask for anything but when I asked him what he wants he will oftentimes suggest pretty expensive items, though we usually get each other pretty equivalent pricey gifts.
My mom: my mom probably over does it with gifts. she likes to both give and receive gifts however she will not tell you what she wants unless you directly ask her. Out of my entire family she is the most likely to ask for a more expensive item though she usually caps her requests at about $200 she asks for a new purse or something.
My dad and brother: they absolutely will not tell you what they want unless you ask them and then they will only give practical suggestions. My brother's birthday just passed and he asked for shorts.