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“Not a nice person” - UPDATE

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This is an update to my last blog and SD's goals of "hello, thank you and goodbye."

Next day we expected to have SD13. She had a game for her sport-of-the-moment and I managed to get a meal she would eat in the crock pot in enough time so that it would be done for us to eat before her and DH had to leave. 

DH calls, like he usually does, but informs me that SD has to be back at school for a separate event 2 hrs before she had to be at her game. Ugh! I knew something about this because I saw it on the school's messaging system but didn't think it applied to SD. DH tried to say it was his fault and that she told him about it last week. Whoever's fault it is, a reminder would have been nice the night before when she was with us, not and hour and half before she had to be back at school. 

Anyway, to the "goals." DH and I talked about them at lunch, so it was fresh in his mind to talk with her again. Well, they get home and I hear the door open. It's kind of quiet and then I hear SD say "I can't!" Then more silence, the. DH and SD coming around the corner with SD giving the most awkward, forced, fake hello imaginable. Then she disappears. 

Then with the rush of making sure her and DH eat, getting DH to not put her to-go food in one of my breakable bowls, and me cleaning up my 3yo after a potty accident, there was no "thank you" or "goodbye."

When I talked to DH later I told him that no hello is better than that fake shiz she gave me, and he agreed. He also told me that SD wanted to say thank you and goodbye but didn't because of the everything. I told him that that shouldn't stop her and she had plenty of opportunities. Ugh. 

Thank goodness it was not DH's weekend. Although he did play chauffeur to her and her friend on Sunday - taking them to the movies and then the friend home and SD to the pick up spot. *eyeroll*

 

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Aniki-Moderator's picture

FFS. Would it be easier for her to TEXT you so she doesn't have to strain her vocal cords and actually speak? What a crock.

Trying to Stepmom's picture

Haha! 

I guess when they were in the car and she told DH that she wanted to say thanks and bye, that DH actually told her to just text me. 

Yup, no text. What a crock indeed!

Siemprematahari's picture

I don't understand how kids get away without the basics of manners. It wont kill her to be cordial and say a simple hello or goodbye. Whatever happened to respect and common courtesy? What ever happened to parents putting their foot in a kids ass and model decent behavior? I don't care if she likes you or not...hell if she's upset that you exist but damn it, she will respect while in the home.

No proper home training is what that is. I'd be damned!

Trying to Stepmom's picture

Whatever happened to respect and common courtesy?

Yes! I couldn't agree more!