OT - ILs are major league a-holes!
I knew this already, but it really hit home last night. DH's family (BIL/SIL/BIL's kids) all gathered at ILs to celebrate Christmas.
We're doing the gift exchange and MIL brings me a gift bag, and it's the usual, an ornament. I get one every year and it was cute enough. But then FIL hands me a card, and in it is a note that reads:
"Son and DIL,
All debts to me and your mother are now forgiven. Hope this helps to make your Christmas & New Year less stressful.
Dad & Mom"
I had a WTF look on my face and showed it to DH. He got really quiet and said he wanted to leave.
How much money do I owe FIL? That would be a big fat $0
How much money does DH owe FIL? Again, $0.
Now IF I had taken a loan from FIL and he forgave that, then it would have been a fabulous gift!
Granted, FIL did a lot to "help" (aka micromanage) DH's bills, and paid off debts for DH (without asking DH first) when DH got divorced. DH never asked for it! He appreciates it. But now it's this "debt is forgiven". From when, birth??
I was angry with FIL and MIL. MIL set the nasty tone before we even got there. DH texted her asking if OSS and MSS were going to be there. She replied "Yeah, I invited them since I wasn't sure if YOU would". She's always guilting him for not attending every single game and missing work to go out of state to watch his son pitch for scouts. Because who TF needs money, right??
I'd brought a bottle of Bailey's and when we were leaving ILs, I marched my happy butt up to the refrigerator and took it home. It's yummy with hot chocolate.
So, next year, I've got my gift planned for IL's - I'm regifting the ornament back to them, with a card and note "All housesitting/cat care/mail pick up/plant watering is free of charge this year. Merry Christmas". Because they always demand DH drop everything and check the mail and feed the cats, water the plants etc. while they're on their month plus RV trips.