BM is NOT willing to compromise (who would've thought?)
After my last blog post, I told DH about some of you giving the advice of telling BM to send over her timesharing ideas. He did, and boy did it go horribly. First BM demanded that they meet in person this weekend because she was going to write up the talking points (*vomit*). Then when he repeated that he preferred to just text, she called him "immature and retarded." Isn't she lovely?
He didn't respond after that, but she kept sending text messages. First she said she wanted the timesharing to be as equal as possible for both of them, even though the parenting plan she's already filed with the court puts their time at 80/20 favoring her. Then she brought up how DH can't pick up/drop off SS to and from school because we only have one vehicle. DH asked for weekend time with SS, and BM wants him to have him every other weekend, so I have no idea why she brought that up.
Then she said he needs to move into a larger apartment, because until then she doesn't want SS spending the night here. She lives in her sister's spare room (which she shares with SS) so I have no idea why she thinks she can judge. Our apartment is small, but SS has his own bed and his own space. Our lease is up in March and we're going to try and find a house before then. Either way, it's none of her GD business since DH has never said one word about her and SS sharing a room.
Then she said that he need not respond to her if he can't figure out his transportation/housing situation. This was all said over the course of 5 or 6 LONGGGG text messages, which is probably just a fraction of what she would have said if he had met her in person. Her last text said, "It would have been nice to have an agreed plan but I'm not hopeful." After all of those text messages she literally left him with no options. "Buy another car and a house and THEN we'll discuss timesharing" is essentially what she said. So how would they have agreed on a plan???
DH still didn't respond to any of this, because it's obvious she isn't actually willing to have a discussion, she's just interested in telling him what to do and acting like she's the better parent. DH and I both have vehicles, and picking up/dropping off SS has literally never been a problem for us. Sure we live in a one bedroom, but SS takes up the living room space when he's with us. We're also working hard to get into a house, although BM doesn't know that. She overshares with DH and then assumes he should do the same. When she applied for a mortgage about six months ago she bragged and bragged about the type of house she was going to get... and then she got denied. So she's been in her sister's spare room for over two years.
Given the context of the parenting plans filed by both of them her text messages make no sense. Plus the context of reality, but BM has never been big on that one lol. But now we have screenshots of her calling him names after all he said was "text me your ideas." That will be fun to show the judge.