DH doesn't want to work but wants to spend money
I've seen the warning signs for a while but I'm kicking myself for being so stupid. When DH and I were dating he lied about his work history. Not huge lies, but small enough that I didn't realize he jumped from job to job every few months. He said things like, "I've worked at such and such a place for three years," when in reality he had technically worked there for three years, just not consecutively. As far as I can tell he's never held the same job for more than a year at a time.
About a year into our marriage he got his "dream job" (his words) and was making almost double what I was making. We had plenty of money to put in savings and buy the things we wanted. Nine months into that job he quit out of the blue. He had promised me that he would never walk off the job, and he definitely wouldn't quit without another job lined up. He did both of those things and didn't seem to care how much it upset me. He had plenty of excuses for why it should be acceptable for him to be unemployed.
Meanwhile, I'm working the same job I've had for almost two years and my income barely covers our bills.
DH found a new job about two weeks after walking off the last job. This one pays way less and it's only part-time (versus the other job that was giving him 15 hours of overtime every week). Now, I don't care much about money. I shop at Goodwill and I've always been fine with that. DH, on the other hand, seems to not understand the concept of money. He convinced me to buy him a brand new motorcycle (back when he had a really good job). He is constantly trying to get me to buy him drones and model cars and other extremely expensive toys.
I say that he asks me to buy them for him because we combine our finances and DH has absolutely nothing to do with money management. I've tried to educate him and get him involved but he won't. He has a credit card but I've told him before that if he starts making irresponsible purchases without talking to me that I'll shut it off. Our marriage didn't start out this way, it's turned into a dictatorship as far as money is concerned due to his irresponsible behavior.
His boss gave him a broken 3D printer that he has been begging me to let him fix (it'll cost $500, so that's a no). He wants to buy a PS4 because his brother has one, and when his brother asked him when he was going to get it, DH had the nerve to say, "The wife won't let me get one." Your PART-TIME JOB won't let you get one you a**hole.
This rant was prompted by a phone call from DH this morning. I'm at work, like a normal adult, and DH wasn't scheduled to work today. For some reason he felt the need to call me after I'd been at work for about an hour to let me know that his boss had called him to see if he wanted to work today. DH told him no. He thought I would find that funny. I didn't and so he hung up on me.
I texted him, "You can't work a part time job while constantly asking me to buy you things and then expect me to think it's funny when you won't work more hours that your boss is offering you. No offense." I guarantee that I'll get the silent treatment until tomorrow, which I'm kind of looking forward to.