BM is completely out of control
I can’t even write down all the craziness BM pulls. She’s the most controlling person I have ever met. She lies constantly and gives DH issues about everything. She even went as far as to tell us their son was suicidal because we were getting married. Ended up being a total lie. He went to the school and talked to the counselor (she told us it was the school counselor who told her) she never thought he would do that and just take her word for it. So he went and the counselor was mortified and said that was not true. She has tried to break us up, she said “I hope your wife doesn’t think we are going to run off and have sex” when he goes to baseball gamrs without me. (That’s disgusting!) No, the reason I’m not there is because I have my own kids. She was trying to make me look jealous. I am very secure with myself and with my husband! Never ever was a thought! She’s so nasty. she tells the kids lies about us. She told her son we wouldn’t come to his birthday party because I hate her. She didn’t invite us (which is fine) but don’t lie and say we aren’t there because I wouldn’t come or let DH come because I “hate her” we never ever said that! She tells DH that he can’t drop his son off at 8pm after dinner and must have him home by 7:15 because he needs to be in bed yet she has him out almost every night until past 8pm playing baseball. (She’s completely obsessed with sports and the kids play sports around the clock, see my last post) she signs them up for everything then DH has to be the bad guy telling them no they don’t get to have every single thing they want in life. I mean I could go on and on! This is just a very few tiny things she’s done. She’s called my daughter fat, she told me her kids are on a different intellectual level then my kids, she has thrown my front door open screaming at DH that she’s the kids mother and can take them anytime she wants (she’s not allowed on our propert anymore) he has said the kids don’t want to be around me (I have an amazing relationship with my stepkids! My oldest stepson ALWAYS prefers to come with me places. We hang out all the time. He loves me and has told me I’m the best stepmom in the world) so just more of her lies! She cheated on DH with their neighbor for 9 months and DH finally figured it out and she told him she did it because he’s “fat and disgusting” (he’s not! He’s a very attractive man) she’s still with the guy but according to him they have a casual relationship. I think she thought she was going to marry this guy and DH was going to just give her whatever she wants and she would have this amazing life with her new husband and her ex husband kissing her ass and things didn’t turn out like she thought and she’s pissed.
Anyway, her latest is she signed SS up for two weeks of very expensive camp and expects DH to pay for it. He pays 100% of everything. Yes, he really screwed himself royally when they did the separation agreement when they spilt. This agreement is now a custody agreement when they divorced so there’s no court order. It weighs heavily in her favor. He was in a bad place and very depressed when they did it and he’s kicking himself now. Anyway it states that he pays 100% of agreed upon activities. He never agreed to two weeks. He never agreed to any of it but she expects payment. Ummm no crazy lady! So what she does when she doesn’t get her own way is go to stepkids and says “I’m so sorry. I tried to get you into camp but dad said no he won’t support you. I’m sorry you have a father that doesn’t care” so then stepkids are upset with dad and there’s nothing we can do to stop this craziness unless we give in and let him go for two weeks and pay the 2K by taking out a loan or something?? I don’t know! Plus Father’s Day is right in the middle of the two weeks and sk is DH’s custody time but she doesn’t care. She tries to limit any time he gets with his kids but then turns around and says they want to spend time with him so he says great okay I want more time then sgecsays “no”! She’s a nightmare! I realize we have to go to court but that takes a lot of time and a lot of money and we are living a nightmare daily! What can we do where we don’t give into her but where stepkids are not upset with DH because he puts his foot down? She signs them up for things then he’s expected to be there and take them and pay for it and if he doesn’t? She is not above dragging the kids into it. She lies to them constantly about him! Thoughts??