I am disengaged. I fully support DH seeing his adult SKs. Last night he took SD and grandson out to dinner (the ones who forbid me to ever see the grandson). I had actually suggested he take them to a nicer place to eat. When he got home, I was tired and he said: "See, you're mad because I took my daughter out to eat!" Um, no I was actually happy for him. I don't get it.
He was mad as last summer I did not invite grandson on my ONLY 2 week vacation of the year. Grandson is the victim of PAS and his grandmother has indoctrinated him to hate me. Found awful statements he wrote about me on my iPad to his grandmother. He was, instead, as the rest of the family, angry that "I invaded his privacy". He had left the messages open on MY iPad. But, I'm supposed to apologize for invading his privacy?
Husband actually encouraged me to disengage. I have been disengaged, but he does not seem to understand all the hurt his ex and SKs have caused. Thoughts?