SS no respect for property
I want to say that I love my SS11 very much, overall he is a great kid...
That being said, every time he is at my house something gets destroyed. SS thinks everything is a jungle gym, he has destroyed furniture in his room, scratched the running boards on my truck, wrote in dust on my car hood that messed up the paint, leaves trash all over the place (that I find hidden when he leaves), tracks dirt all over, just HAS to put his handprints on every clean window he can find, uses the couch foot rest as a trampoline...and on and on. I try to buy nice/quality stuff so it will last, but he treats everything like a toy.
My wife has got to the point where she said no toys for gifts because they just get destroyed within a few days. The kids room at home is a disaster, dirty dishes in the closet, clothes piled everywhere. We spent $300 for new school clothes, found them buried in a corner under a mountain of trash.
I try to look over some of the things he does, but when my property gets ruined I mention it to my wife. Now we are at the point where she says I am just nitpicking him and clearly favor my SD13 because I don't complain about her, of course my response was, "she doesn't screw our things up." She always defends him by saying, "He's an 11 year old boy." Itry to say I'm not being mean, I am trying to turn him into a responsible young man.
Now I don't want to mention when SS is being a pig or wrecks things because I feel like I'm just disregarded and I'm too strict. It is beginning to cause issues in my relationship, I need advice!