Not sure where to turn
I need advice.. I married my husband 5 years ago. He has a son and I have 3 children of my own. He gets his son every other weekend. My children are with me all of the time except for every other weekend when they go to their fathers house. Everything was perfect for the first couple of years. Then.. everything changed. I have been told by my stepson that he doesn’t want me around. He says I can come visit him and his dad when HE says that I can. But I cannot live with them. He has purposely broken 3 things of mine that meant a great deal to me. He laughed about it. I was in the bathroom once and he kicked a stool out from under my 2 year old daughter, drug her through the house (giving her carpet burn), locked her in her room and laughed while she cried and begged for him to stop. When asked why he did this, he shrugs his shoulders and says he doesn’t know why he did it. He has made up lies on me to try to get me into major trouble. He has also made up lies on his own grandpa and his mother’s boyfriend. He once told my other daughter that he would “hold her under water until the bubbles stopped coming up”. What child says things like that??? He has held a pillow over my daughters face until her face turned red and then tried to lie about it. I could go on and on and on... Since all of these things happening, I now refuse to keep him when my husband isn’t home. This child is now 11 and bigger than me. I do not feel safe with him being here alone with me and especially my 2 girls. My husband and I used to get a weekend alone every 2 weeks but now we cannot do that anymore. His child is here when my children go to their fathers. When the birth mother is told about these things, she acts like we are making it up. She shrugs it off and doesn’t really care. My stepsons actions and words have really hurt me. I have explained this to my husband but he doesn’t seem to understand just how bad this is. He tries to discipline his child but nothing seems to help or work. Over the past 6 months, I have fell into a deep depression. I love my husband but I cannot keep letting these things go on. I have went as far as to leave when his child comes over. Where is the fairness in that? I shouldn’t have to feel like a prisoner in my own home. Basically, I am asking for advice from an outside standpoint. What would you do? How would you handle this? Thank you!!!