Vacation without grandson
A little background, my adult SD and her mother have banned me from ever speaking or being with step grandson. I also found messages he had sent to his grandmother saying he "had better end the ban at Christmas or else she won't buy me what I want". His grandmother wrote I am "selfish and evil". He is not allowed to say he likes me. I used to take him, by myself, on trips, but he would always go back and tell his grandma that i was "drunk" (after 2 Twisted Teas!) and make up all kinds of horrible things about me.
DH wanted to bring him this time, but I said no. Why should I? He hates me and was told by his mother and grandmother to NEVER interact with me again. DH threw a fit because our friends brought their 2 grandkids who treated me so well. I told him he has not stood up for me and therefore step grandson was not invited. I get only 2 weeks off a year and I'll be damned if I have a 15 year old who is there to monitor me and report back to the ex! Further, he has treated me so disrepctfully, but DH is afraid of confrontation.
DH is very upset, yet he cannot see his own actions as contributing to this.