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SD turned 17 today...

agitated's picture

only one more year to go until the sweet age of 18! I have a very strong feeling that after she graduates in 10 months and goes to her mom's for the court ordered visitation, she will not return (her birthday is always during visitation). We have rules and expectations after graduation, but mom has zero. Hmmm...who will she choose to live with?

That is all. Have a great day!

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Jcksjj's picture

Yayyy!  Congrats on the end  being near.

Thisisnotus's picture

wooohooo congrats!! Get super strict on her NOW and seal your fate that won't she return. YIPEE!!!

agitated's picture

We have been already! All 3 of the kids know that after graduation they have 6 months to either 1.) enroll in school FT & work PT and they can continue to live at home for free (with the exception of paying their own phone bill, car insurance, gas, etc.); 2.) enroll in school and live on-campus and come home on breaks if they want; OR 3.) Move out. There are NO exceptions to this rule and they know that.

advice.only2's picture

CONGRATULATIONS! The last year for me was the longest and hardest, but the best one. You finally have a light at the end of that looooooooooooong dark tunnel!

When Spawn turned 18 I blew up DH's phone and Fakebook with memes about finally being free. I didn't realize how elated I would be and I actually cried. I so wanted to send a HUGE F-U to Meth Mouth, but nothing I could come up with seemed big enough for all the years of hell I endured.

thinkthrice's picture

CS till 21

 Ridiculous!!

Hoping the Houseshitter emancipates by 18!

CLove's picture

When Feral Forger turned 18, she graduated a month later, then took classes to prolong things..THEN finally got a job, then ghosted us for 1.5 years.

Munchkin SD13 mentioned how the house felt lighter and cheerier when she left. LOL. Then I waited aproximately 8 months to trasnform her room into my "Clove room" (of course shes mad lol!) filled with light,and plants and fish, and my clothes...LOL.

With Munchkin I am only counting down the days until the end of :

1. Spousal Support ends (8 months now! $2,400)

2. Child Support - aka Toxic Troll BM Support (4 years and 9 months, or 57 payments, $ 19,799.00)

I told Munchkin SD13 that she can live with us for free if she is in college full time with a parttime job so she has some money. She is actually looking forward to being a productive human! She is looking at a career in the medical research field!!!! She is looking at salaries of differeent jobs, and the one she wants pays about 200k!!!

Feral Forger on the other hand, after ghosting us for1.5 years, STILL has no drivers license, and is living with her momee Toxic Troll, and is STILL a filthy lazy rude mean toxic pig of a human who hasnt done any college classes. AT 20 yo.

So, hopefully you will see some productivity, but you have to start grooming early.

agitated's picture

The great thing for us is we plan on buying a house right at the time she graduates...sooooo, if she decides to stay with BM. Then her would-be room is ALL MINE from the get go for my exercise room. She can't be mad because it was never hers to begin with. I'll be nice and put a futon in there if she decides to visit, but I don't see that happening seeing as she doesn't drive (no permit or license) and refuses to get one. BTW, her mom lives 12+ hours away.

ChamomileTea4Me's picture

SD17 just had a birthday , too. There's definitely something about that number that put a little sparkle of hope back in my eyes. It suddenly seems more doable.  Unfortunately, SD17 is just starting Junior year, sooo...not sure what that will mean for us. We're in the home stretch though, OP!!! WOOOOO HOOOOO! 

thinkthrice's picture

who are getting involved with a guy who has kids under age 6...RUNNNNN!!!!!

(actually ANY age but think of the CS flushed!!!)

ishouldrun's picture

Woo-hoo 11 more payments, 11 more months.  SKid has already said that once he turns 18 his bio-skank is going to sell the house and he's on the street.  Not my problem, haven't seen him for a total of 24 hours in over a year now, guess bio-skank will have to figure it out.  Yep great idea to PAS the kid-you made the bed now you lie in it.

ESMOD's picture

Oh.. man.  I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it may not work out like that.  Quite often once the value of the CS payment goes away, the other parent magically does not want the burden of that child in their home. So, you may be free of a CS obligation.. but that kid could be "forced" to live with you.

ishouldrun's picture

and it was one of our better discussions.  Before PAS my SO would have been throwing a party if Skid said I want to live with you but over the past couple of years there has been so many lies, manipulative behavior and hurtful conduct that SO is not trying to push this idea -yet.  When we discussed it and I told SO that for me there were two options:  1) he could pay Skid's rent so he could live somewhere else for a time period determined by my SO or 2) he could move out and live with Skid but Skid is not living at my house.  I totally expect that SO may very well try some version of but it will only be for a couple of months when and if this happens but nope sticking to my guns on this one I cannot live with Skid.  Skid could also live with his auntie and BGM - he has spent overnights there for years anyway (has a bedroom there already) whenever BM wanted to be with her boyfriend and didn't want to be a mom which is most of the time.