My stepdaughter is asking for my help
I have raised my stepdaughter since she was 2. She is now 14 and dealing with some pretty heavy stuff. He mother suffered from bipolar depression and postpartum depression. She committed suicide when the baby was almost 9 months old. I grew attached to her from the moment that I met her and we have always been close. She has asked me questions about her natural mother and I can only give her limited answers from things that I had heard. I never met her. This past year she was supposed to go into 7th grade but was well above average enough to skip the 7th and go into the 8th grade. She aced it with a presidential award. She is amazingly talented and witty, yet she keeps telling me that she hates herself and sometimes wants to die...she keeps to herself because she says people thinks she's weird. I think she's just afraid to out herself out there. She spoke to her guidance counselor about getting a therapist . The girl has so much on her chest to process and I want to help her but feel unqualified. The counselor called her father and spoke of their conversation and the daughters request for a counselor. It made my boyfriend really angry. He yelled at his daughter. She can't get therapy unless he signs off on it and he won't. I legally can't sign for her..to me and her, she is my daughter..the word step isn't used..but her father and I don't want to get married. We have lived together for the last 12 years and that's great for us.
Is there any advice or suggestions that I could give her? Maybe some free websites that she could explore on her own with people going through similar things. I think if she could just talk it out, she would feel better and stop cutting herself...I am worried everyday..I work a while lot and it's not an option for me to be around all of the time.