Do any of you regret how you may have acted towards or treated your SKs? Mine are not THAT bad, but I find that I have gotten really short tempered and angry with them, even for things that normal kids would do. I guess when it’s not your child, you view it differently. And I think half the time I get angry, it’s more because of how DH and BM handle many situations that I have no control over. My husband is getting mad at me for not wanting to be around them as much, and he says I don’t treat them the way I treat our own children. While that may be true, I also don’t have to deal with a lot of the crap from my own... but then I feel guilty at times.
Sometimes I think back and I feel bad about something I have said or done...at the end of the day, they are children in an unfortunate situation. They now live with their BM more (she used to live out of town). But I cant help but think they want to be there because they don’t want to be around us, even though life at BM’s is a walk in the park with no chores, rules, etc. I often feel bad for my husband because he doesn’t see them as much..but he also isn’t making much of an effort to see them either.
I guess I am just venting...