I can't win
My SD moved in last December with her newborn. That lasted 4 months before she left due to me holding her accountable for her actions. Since then life has been cool until she started spending 3 nights out of the week to participate in a work training program.. I was okay with that until three nights turned into a week with her and the baby. Once I started asking when she leaving DW get an attitude. Then she brings up my lack of interaction with the baby.
I told her I can't become attach because I know we. are going have to make some hard decisions about opening our door again to her in the future. My wife accused me of expectating her to fail in her pursuit to become a contributing member. of society.
My SD is 29 with no job, no income, and no car. She has not worked in two years. The reality of having a child did not motivate her to look for job until the state cut off her cash assistance. I came to the realization at this point this is who she is as a person. Someone is going have to take care of her. I'm being look at as the bad guy because I'm being honest. Being a SD sucks!!!