Why does BM enjoy harassing DH?
Well, as we know, BM is now in the business of harassing DH about the recent court order for increased child support and tuition for SS19. She sent another email today about the tuition, because they have a disagreement about the interpretation of the CO, and also now claiming she didn't get child support for April. CS has been going through Child Support Enforcement and money was taken from DH's check all through March. She claims that they will no longer be taking it from his check and he will have to pay directly, but he has not yet been told that, and it's still coming out of his check. So it seems fairly clear that she should be checking with CSE about where her April money is, yet she levels it at DH as another accusation of what he owes.
Why does she enjoy this? I know the pat answers are "power and control", but in what way does this make her happy? I really can't wrap my head around why it's enjoyable for her to fire off emails to her ex-husband. She doesn't get any reaction from him anymore, at least not one she can see. If they head back to court, she will be paying for her attorney and DH will be Pro Se, as she already knows. How does this make her feel "in control" and "powerful"?
I will note that we are aware that SS19 left today to go visit his 26-year-old girlfriend in Faraway State, and I assume BM feels she's losing control of SS, which hopefully, she is.
Any insight into the mind of a crazy BM? You'd think I would get it by now, but I can't wrap my head around how this makes someone feel "powerful" and "in control".