If I had the money I would leave
Today he says that classic line
"I don't understand why the two of you can't get along."
How I hate it when he says that to me. He must not have any idea what an unsupporting, weak, ignorant, and cowardly statement that is.
Does he not get that Ive been getting along quite well with people for over 30+ years? That I have more experience with interpersonal communications than a 16 year old? That I should have more maturity than a teenager?
Right now I'm sitting in my car. I took DD8 and the dog with me out of the house. SD16 was starting with her attitude as she walked around the house mumbling to herself but being loud enough to ensure she could be heard . Then she started getting after DD8 about cleaning something up so I called out that I had it handled. I knew it was time to get going because nothing is ever done and settled with her. Then she started going off on DD8 again so I called out a bit stronger this time that I had it handled. Then SD16 marches to her room throwing a tantrum along the way like I was out to get her and totally rude or something.
I knew this wasnt going to get any better so it was time to leave. I had already texted her dad at work asking him to talk to her but that was before she started being mean to DD8 and I was forced to say something to make it stop. So me., DD8, and our dog got our things together to leave. Then here comes SD acting all shocked and confused asking where we were going. I didnt know what to say. Its kind of like when you know making eye contact with someone is the worst idea becsuse it will make them think you want to engage with them in a conversation. It was kinda like that except instead of conversation it would just be a bunch of verbal manipulative garbage spewing out of her mouth. So i just said the simple truth that we were leaving and got in the car. Took the dog with DD and me because SD is not nice to him and takes her anger out on other things at whim but especially when she is mad.
I thought leaving the house was a very good decision and I feel I handled myself quite well. Then DH calls me and starts raising his voice saying he doesnt understand why her and i cant get along and why do I shut her out. Does he mean I'm supposed to accept being treated rudely just so the person being mean feels accepted and included? Am i supposed to just sit there and take it? Oh I know. I'm supposed to be understanding, patient, and forgiving to her like he is. I'm supposed to look like a weak minded idiot that lets a teenager control my life. Now i get it, I'm supposed to be more like him.
I swear if I had the money or a place to stay I would be totally gone at least until SD16 moves out. Is that letting her win? I don't care if it is or not. It would be peaceful. I could enjoy life instead of enduring it.
I cant help but get a small bit of satisfaction from the look on her face when she realized I was leaving the house. She had no show without an audience. She had no one to be mean to if she was alone and no one to argue with if she was by herself.
DH doesnt seem to understand that nice people who are respectful are pleasant to be around. Mean and rude people are not pleasant to be around . Common sense seems to be a totally foreign idea to him.