Guilt trip....really Dh???
I have this diamond pendant that is made from a diamond that my mom gave me. It was given to her by her great aunt. It was originally in a wedding ring setting.
So this is a family heirloom kind of thing.
The other day I mentioned that I would be passing this pendant on to my niece in the event of my death. Or I reach the age that I want to start passing things down. Dh said something to the effect of "so Ss just doesn't exist?" and "what is Ss going to get?".
I answered with "whatever HIS mother or you give him."
My niece is my relative by blood. Why would I want to give Ss a piece of jewlery from someone that he has no relation to and could really care less about?
The same goes with all of my ancestry research. It will be given to my niece or nephew. It is not Ss's family. No matter how you slice it.
I don't want to make anyone feel bad but it just makes sense this way to me.