Is this normal??
Im new to this forum so bare with me.
Is it normal to hate your stepchild? Completely? I feel like a horrible person. My SS is high functioning Autistic compounded with ADHD. He is almost 13 and I have been in his life since he was 10 months old. Obviously I knew what I was in for but his mother did not get his diagnosis until he was 7! In which I took part in because she is just like him and can't do things on her own.
Once I got pregnant and had my own child these hateful feelings for my SS just got worse. I literally can't stand him and dread the weeks he is over at our house. I love my husband and I know that I should love my SS but I dont and I dont think I ever will.
My SS can not do anything for himself. He has to have constant reminders and pretty much relies on his mother to do EVERYTHING for him. Its beyond frustrating. I hate his mother. She has not helped him one bit. She focuses more on his education then he actual mental needs. Maybe its my hate for her that extends to him. I dont know. I just know that he frustates me and I hate that he cant do anything for himself. My poor husband is at his wits end. We dont want full custody of him. We are happy with 50/50. With the rate that BM is going with SS, he will never live alone. He will need constant care for the rest of his life.
Please dont say to cut my losses and head out. I have been with my husband for 12 years and that is not what I want to do. I will not give up a prefectly good marriage and relationship because of this. That is just insane.
I merely want to know if anyone else feels this way about their stepchild? And does the thought of them turning 18 make you jump for freaking joy?