Alpha step dad
I feel so torn between my husband and my 18 year old son that lives at home and it going to college. I feel like a lot of Grace needs to be given on both sides with a new instance of remarriage and a new man coming into the household. My husband is so old-school and demands respect and gets quite angry quite often and nit picks. my son pays for his car and insurance and does chores when I asked him to, but to my husband it's never enough.. he's constantly saying that he'll never be a man because Im too protective. the reason I'm protective is because my ex-husband did not treat our son very well and is not in his life much at all. It's been us to for the past 10 years. I feel like it's a constant pissing match between the two of them. My son is non-confrontational like me so he takes the brunt of it, but when things get escalated I can definitely feel the heat and wedges are being built... I hope I can get some men's perspective on this. I feel like I'm completely in the middle and I have to take sides. I wouldn't consider myself overbearing but I do not like anger being directed at my child. It's getting quite old.
Any thoughts or advice on this kind of an issue?