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Jcksjj's picture

We are finding out on Friday if we are having a girl or a boy. So far I've had 2 boys and naturally everyone is assuming I want a girl and telling me how girls are supposedly easier and blah blah. Is that the experience you guys have had? I've seen articles claiming girls do better in school so that part I could see as being true. I really dont care which the baby is but I am curious about anyone else's boy vs girl raising experiences since that's what I keep hearing about.

Kiwi_koala's picture

I don't have kids, but my mom has me and my two brothers. I didn't give her any issues as a teenager. I didn't drink, do drugs and didn't date boys yet until college. She didn't like my past fiance so there was that but I was and still am easy going. My middle brother was mostly good and my youngest brother was very very difficult. He had attitude issues so I think it depends on the kid. 

Rags's picture

My brother has a daughter and two sons.  He swears that when they are little girls are easier but the hell they represent when they hit their teens and early 20s is so bad that boys over all are far easier.  Though he does freely admit that when they are young boys are far more difficult than girls are when they are young.

24 years as a SM's picture

My parents had 9 kids, 5 boys, then 4 girls. I m the youngest of the bunch. My dad swore up and down that the boys were so much easier than us girls, my parents owned a ranch, so both of them were hard working and expected all of us kids to do work around the ranch. All of us girls were tomboys, when we were young, but when the teenage years rolled around, it was a total nightmare for my parents. Two of my sisters became the most prissy selfish girly girls and it drove my dad nuts, the whining about broken figure nails, wanting new designer clothes, and don't get me started about the damn shoes they wanted.

Dad always said that girls can be so selfish and demanding, but I remember my oldest brother being a self entitled arrogant asshole, because he was the oldest. So I think it's all about perspective of each person.

ndc's picture

My grandmother had 4 of each variety, and she always said it was more dependent on the personality of the individual child than gender.  But she said in general, girls are easier when they're young but more difficult as teens. 

Focused_onourlife's picture

I have 3 boys and 1 girl. My girl 16 is NOW the hardest because she is a girly girl (happened more when she reached HS). She is also more dependable, the second oldest and I could depend on her more to actually WATCH the kids (2 youngest boys 10 and 9) when we go out and actually help out with household needs more then our ODS19 and the BS's 10 and 9 all together. All in all, she requires more financially and emotionally (and make straight A's and some B's and more rewarded because of that) but the boys are the one's we worry more about because they don't think about consequences like the DD. I just can't stand her hormonal attitude and what gets her in trouble the most but when we explain why she's punished she will understand and try harder.

caitlinj's picture

Each is hard for different reasons. SS tends to cause more mischief and is lazier than SD. He also manipulates and lies more than SD does (surprisingly). SD is very emotional and seems to have issues with her temper, listening  and controlling her anger outbursts. She also tends to be the mean girl at school whereas SS is near perfect at school he's very manipulative at home. SD likes tto try new activities and gets very frustrated but sticks it out. SS is a quitter and mocks SD. He is insecure about not being able to accomplish age milestones as well as she has.

Myss.Tique D'Off's picture

I only have a son (13) and he was and is generally very easy to raise. My parents had 3 boys and 2 girls. My Mom says my brother and I were equally difficult for various reasons... I guess it depends on t he personalities involved. My brother and I are both head-strong, strong willed peopled... And strangely, the only two who experienced divorce and  a step-kid situation.

Dealing with skids, my SD was horrible. SS is way better, so IMO, boys are probably easier. No evidence to prove it though Wink

justmakingthebest's picture

I had a boy first and then a girl. I was honestly hoping for another boy, I felt like I had to boy mom thing down! A girl was going to really change things... I must say, I love my son more than words can express, but there is something special about having a daughter. It is a different bond. 

My experience was that as a baby and toddler - boys are hard!!! My daughter was soooo much easier as a little one. Now that we are in the teens/pre-teens- boys are soooo much easier! LOL - I can't complain though. I have good kids Smile The pressure on girls as they get older, with the hair, the makeup the clothes.... Plus my kids put a ton of pressure on themselves with grades. Then throw in sports... and hormones! It is a lot some days!

STaround's picture

The NY Times had a study that showed that families expect girls to spend appreciably more time on chores than boys.  That is wrong.   People expect girls to clean up, babysit etc.  We need to support girls.  The days of boys and men doing field work has ended for most families.   Work in the house has to be shared. 

mro's picture

When ex and I were expecting our third we had already had 2 girls.   I lost count of how many people said, "hoping for a boy, huh?"   Our response , we're hoping for a healthy baby.  It would have been the same if we had had 2 boys and they were assuming we were hoping for a girl.  

Well it was a boy!  In some ways I think a boy was easier but then again I had to keep him on a lot shorter leash lol