SS saw BM
So, the holidays came and went and SS didn't see BM. She asked him daily but he blew her off or just wouldn't respond every time she brought it up. He spent a lot of time with her dad and stepmom over his school break, and BM is now living about 5 minutes from them ( she was kicked out of the last RV park she was staying at and had to relocate). At one point SS was going with his grandparents to see his cousin in another town and BM found out and kinda flipped her lid that she wasn't invited. She left a very paranoid and disturbing message in SS's voicemail. SS had no idea what she was talking about.
Anyway, he was up at his grandparents last week and BM called her dad frantic begging him to come and get her (she had no gas in the truck of his that she uses to tow the trailer she lives in). Her dad told her NO, that they were busy (didn't mention SS was there) and that she would have to wait. The next day SS wanted to stay another night so they ended up telling him that BM was again being kicked out of a trailer park and they needed to go get her. They offered to bring him home so he didn't have to see her, but he said it was OK that he would see her. They each said "hey" and didn't speak to each other. She stayed out in her trailer in their front yard. And he stayed in the room they have there for him. He is their only grandchild. THe next day, she asked SS to go for a walk with her so they could talk. SS was so brutally honest with her. I think she expected him to be all "I miss you mommy blah blah blah" and he was more like "youlook horrible and don't lie to me about being sober because we both know you aren't. At one point she told him she was thinking about moving to Oregon. She has a (junkie) friend there. And he told her to "fucking go". I've never heard this child even close to curse. And the fact that he did, didn't even anger me. It just shows how done he is with her.
When SS was telling me all of this when he got home he was so matter of fact about it. Then he told me that she stopped being his mom a very long time ago and that he loves me. He's so sweet. Since then, he has been calling me mom. After 14 years.... he started calling me mom.
The next day, BM's stepmom called me. She told me that BM and her dad got in a fight after SS left. What was supposed to be a semi-permanent stay turned in to 1 night. She is now staying in her trailer, parked on the street in the town that is a little closer to us, where she was kicked out of the first RV park. Apparently she told her dad that she can't keep a job because all the guys hit on her where ever she works and all the girls are jealous. WOW. Talk about delusional. Her dad told her that the drugs have fried her brain because she can't possibly think that is true, she looks TERRIBLE. Her dad is finally snapping out of denial and her son is not putting up with her crap either. So... she's living on the street, no money, no job, no boyfriend (today anyway) no gas in her truck. Only food stamps that she gets illegally.