PLease help. I don't know what to do anymore. I am so frustrated with my DH who lets my SS RUN ALL OVER HIM. This kid is an A$$ and gets away with everything and my husband always tells me I'm over reacting. He's 17, uses drugs, drinks in his room, deals drugs and you name it. Lost more jobs than I can count and always has an excuse. Does no homework, chores or anything. I am so sick of living like this I just want to leave. My husband won't do anything about him and says he's just a teenager. He is always telling me I over react and need to calm down. I say I'm tired of cleaning for, feeding and spending my money on an ungrateful kid who wants "to be left alone". His bedroom is absolute filth. He lives with us full time because his mom kicked him out for his behavior then she texts him all the time and encourages him from the other side. She's wanting him to pull all this while at our house to make us miserable. She doesn't care that this kid is endangering himself and others.
I am so sad that our five year marriage is in dire jeopardy because of this selfish kid. He's got an attitude the size of Texas and thinks he should be allowed to do whatever he wants. We have had to install cameras in the house and a ring door bell because we were suspicious he dealing from the house. He is VERY sketchy and I don't trust him at all. He lies about everything. I seriously cannot stand to be in the same house with him. What do I do? I love my husband but this is too much to handle. He keeps "threatening" to move out when he's 18 because we have rules but the kid can't even feed himself. How's he gonna move out?? That's 9 months from now and I just don't know if I can hold on.
My husband and I fight all the time because of SS and I don't think we will ever agree. I don't want to cause any strain on their relationship but I can't hold my tongue. I try and hlold it in only to lose it and blow up. My health is suffering terribly from trying to hold it in. I have developed Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, gianed 80 pounds and cracked several teeth from night grinding because of the stress. I cry on a daily basis. Why are fathers so afraid to do anything when it comes to their kids?? I am at my wits end. Any help would be so appreciated.