Has anyone experienced this ? Sometimes I feel like SD thinks my role in this family is more of a maid than her father’s wife. I’ve been disengaged for a long time now but it still affects me. I am a stay at home mom only SO works and I do all the housework, my 2 BSs have few chores, as for SD I never ask her to do anything due to past misunderstandings with BM, each time she’s here I’m always in a bad mood, food everywhere (couch, table, kitchen counters), I used to teach her how to bake but I don’t anymore and she does it herself and messes the all kitchen, her room stinks so bad, I used to clean it but i stopped. Once she made a big mess in the kitchen and when SO asked her to clean she pointed at me saying “why should I, it’s her job” I was shocked and he told her it was mean to say that but she didn’t seem to care. Lately BM is seeing someone and we been having SD almost everyday for the past 3 weeks and when she noticed like anything like dirty dishes or so she goes get SO and says “dada , papa (with a baby voice) look it’s not well washed” or “ dada looks like mold on the kitchen sink, it don’t get cleaned well etc...” it’s driving me crazy, I keep feeling annoyed all the time, he don’t say a thing back till she eventually keeps quiet. I am just being bitter toward SD due to other conflicts I’ve had with SO about BM , I know this is petty but why am I so angry