My manipulative nephew fakes special needs
Soo.. summer of 2017 my husband's nephew moved into our home. His mother is an on again off again druggie and after her last split with most recent boyfriend she lost her home and started going couch to couch (not our couch because we are the "stuck up" ones that don't condone that lifestyle) nephews father has been incarcerated his whole life. After struggling through the summer months with behavior issues we finally put him in school and after raising one daughter who was salutatorian of her graduating class I figured I would have his grades whipped into shape in no time. In the past he had usually failed classes and also had to do community service for truancy. Most of this I blamed on his home life. After a few months of school I got a note home to come to an IEP meeting. Come to find out the boy was considered "special ed" and had been taking medicine for add. I knew none of this and would have never thought that about him. After his first semester I felt that he was probably not slow or suffering from any disorder because he was passing regular classes and never acted like he had attention problems. He finished last year with a 3.2 GPA which is a B average and I was happy with that. He did have some behavior issues at school, several calls home about drawing penis on paper and rolling eyes. Of course he was punished.
The problem I am having is this: Even though nephew is passionate classes and his behavior has improved he still gives off a very sneaky vibe. In the beginning he was stealing money out of my purse, change jar etc.. smoking pot, lying and sneaking around to talk to kids we had told him to stay away from. Instead of being slow or suffering from a disorder I feel he is just sneaky and manipulative. For years he flunked grades and acted out in school, throwing horrible tantrums and making bizarre threats and I feel like it was all an act. He was lazy and didn't want to perform in school so he allowed himself to be labeled. As soon as we lay down the law, all of a sudden he can miraculously learn like all the other kids? I am very suspicious of him.