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Aniki-Moderator's picture

You and Jane are going out for the evening. Jane asks you to help her choose an outfit. She puts on a dress that is pretty, but absolutely HIDEOUS on Jane. “How do I look, Aniki?”

Evil Aniki thinks, “Jane, you look like a stack of tires and that color make you look like you’re about to barf.” Diablo

Nice Aniki says, “Jane, that’s a pretty dress but you have other outfits that are much more flattering. What about that blue wrap dress that showcases the ‘girls’ and makes your skin look so warm and creamy?”
(No, I’m NOT hitting on Jane. I’m trying to keep her from making a fashion disaster!)

All of us have been guilty of tearing down, at one time or another. We look for the negative instead of the positive. And it can become an ugly habit. Maybe you don’t say it to someone’s face, but you say it behind her back. We give a discouraging opinion instead of trying to put a positive spin on the negative and make the words less hurtful and more helpful. You can be honest without being mean. You can be positive without being hurtful.

Did you notice that if you frequently let out your Evil side that you often start using it against yourself? NO ONE is meaner to me than I am to myself and I am absolutely BRUTAL. Maybe that’s WHY I try to put a positive spin on the negative and find ways to let my friends know there are better choices. No, I’m not talking about just clothes. Women are powerful creatures. As such, we should empower one another – not tear each other down.

How about some phrases to uplift each other? Things we can use to try and feel better about ourselves?

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Don’t let anyone EVER dull your sparkle.

You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are. ~ Melissa Etheridge

Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.

I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself. ~ Emma Stone

Make sure your worst enemy is not living between your ears.

Don’t be the girl who fell. Be the girl who got back up. ~ Jenette Stanley

Create your own sunshine.

I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning to sail my ship. ~ Louisa May Alcott

I choose to be HAPPY.

I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all. ~ Coco Chanel

I am doing this for ME.

The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. ~ Ayn Rand

If you get tired, learn to rest, NOT TO QUIT.

We can do no great things, only small things with great love. ~ Mother Teresa

It never gets easier; you just get better.

Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror. ~ Byron Katie

I believe in you!!!


Dovina's picture

What a wonderful post! A reminder to chose our words wisely, for ourselves and others. 

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Aniki thank you for this reminder!!! It's definitley something I need to work on... Especially sinc eyou had all your uplifting quotes and I was all "let me think of one!" And all I thought of was "Punch today in the face."

You're amazing Smile

Aniki-Moderator's picture

PA, I was definitely in need of that reminder and thought I'd share. Smile

"Punch today in the face" is a wonderful quote!!!

You are, too, sweetness.  Kiss 2

Major Blunder's picture

Personally one of my greatest dissappointments with my SDs is they never learned the lessons we tried to teach them about being strong , independent, beautiful women.  So I’m chiming in to lift up any of you that are even half questioning your worth, and hopefully give you a little chuckle.



“Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult.” – Charlotte Whitton

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Thank you, Major!!

It's never too late. I hope that some day your SDs learn those lessons.

Psssst... This concept can be applied to men. But if you tell Fred how to showcase his moobs and that his skin looks warm and creamy, he might punch you. Wink

ESMOD's picture

It's a good reminder.  I think sometimes women are too hard on our selves and self depreciating.

Shoot, just yesterday we were in a meeting with a consultant who was giving us some ideas on how to do some of our business  better and I threw out an idea.  The Consultant jumped on it and said that was a GREAT idea.. my boss did too. 

What did I say.. (one who uses humor to deflect?) "I think this idea falls into the category of "even a blind squirel can find a nut"..  After I said it I thought "why did you make fun of yourself and minimize your contribution to your group?  Is it because you have a couple of male coworkers that are seriously Type A and tend to run over people and their ideas?  possibly.  Is it that I'm the only woman and not an engineer so feel my input might be "silly"? Sure.  But, I should have stopped before I said that.. because in my eyes it kind of reduced my own value..



Aniki-Moderator's picture

Yes, ESMOD, you reduced your value in your eyes.

The Consultant said it was a GREAT idea. Remember that!!! xoxo

classyNJ's picture

I posted on my Fakebook today:  Indpendent females are so undervalued - she doesn't even need you, she just wants you.  She is going to do her thing with our without you.  And thats a queen!  

I loved it!