Step daughter driving me crazy(super long)
So little back story me and my SO have been together for a year and a half we both have children from previous relationships. When I first met his daughter she had come down to visit because her dad had just moved here. she was great no problems nice little girl.
Well she went back to her moms after being here for the summer and her mom gets a new boyfriend. Cuts all ties with my boyfriend won’t let him see his daughter talk to her on the phone anything. He had no contact with her for almost like a year I kept telling him to go get a lawyer because she can’t do that but he never listened so that was his own fault.
Well fast forward to right before this summer starts her mom breaks up with the boyfriend and contacts my boyfriend saying how now all the sudden she wants to be civil and his daughter needs her dad in her life blah blah. I’m happy for him that’s great I know how much he’s missed her so we pick her up and she’s going to stay the summer with us. I don’t know what changed but she’s acts horrible now. I know it’s not her fault she’s young she’s only 6 but my god they way her mother has raised her drives me crazy.
Shes really rude I buy or do something for her she just takes it and says nothing no thank you nothing she has no manners so I remind her to say please and thank you a lot and she’ll just say I know. she will not eat any fruits or vegetables or anything healthy at all. She says I don’t like that doesn’t even try it and starts crying all she will eat is junk food cookies chips candy etc.
When playing with other kids she snatches things out of their hands and says gimme that and I say no you say can I have that please don’t grab and say gimme that’s rude. She just ignores me and I have to repeat myself and ask her if she understands and she just reply’s I know. Now I’ll make dinner for all of us almost every night and I’ll try to get her to eat healthy. She will cry and cry because she doesn’t like that without even trying it. If I finally do get her to try it she’ll hold it in her mouth for so long and won’t swallow it and start gagging and crying like it’s the end of the world this isn’t just one thing I’ve tried many different fruits and veggies it all the same reaction.
She cries over everything like the most minuscule things she cries atleast 15 times a day if not more. Over things like she accidentally dropped her doll on the floor boom crying fit. Anytime she has to go to the bathroom and she doesn’t get there right then and there when she announces she has to go boom crying. She dropped a little piece of food on her or a drop of water boom crying, were playing all having fun laughing and the ball doesn’t roll her way or something like that she cries.
She gives me dirty looks all the time and doesn’t want to listen to me I get that this is still kinda new to her but it’s nothing big I’ll just ask her to pick up her toys and she’ll ignore me and pretend she didn’t hear me. She does that a lot I get this is all kinda new to her and she’s been gone awhile and I’m not even blaming her behavior on her it’s not really her fault.
Her mom has now told us to keep her because she’s having a difficult time so we are now going to have her full time. She can’t keep acting like this since she’s staying now. I really don’t know what to do or how to help her her behavior. It’s unhealthy and bad and she’s going to start kindergarten soon and she can’t behave this way there. I’m hoping it’ll get better with time. Maybe once she’s more comfortable but it’s already been 3 months almost 4 and nothing has changed even a little.
I’m not just blaming her mom though my boyfriend plays his own part too he’s pretty good about most things but he doesn’t try to fix her rude behavior. I’ll tell him and he just kinda shrugs it off which does not help because that’s then teaching her that it’s ok. With her eating habits she could eat junk food all day and it wouldn’t bother him so again not helping the cause but I’m the one with the kids all day he works so I really really need some advice on what to do