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Whew wee's picture

im newly married for two years and my husband has 3 kids with ex. They were never married but long term relationship. My husband and I have daughter together. Our daughter falls in between his oldest with her and their youngest. So that’s where the animosity begins....but anyway I’m tying to vent about my SD because it drives me nuts...the FaceTiming with her mother, the Skyping her mother, just having to hear her moms voice when she is here. It’s so annoying...it really creates a distaste for the visits. SS is a thief and to add to that he is 20 and he is not my husbands son but calls him dad..ugh...this is just an overview. It’s deeper than what I have explained but I don’t want to bore u guys with so many details...I can’t stand the thought of them coming around

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not your momma's picture

....how does your daughter with him fall in between his oldest and youngest with Ex...?

Whew wee's picture

 

When my husband I met, he had their oldest already. After him and I were together for a couple of years, he then went on to have another relationship with her, then after a  12 year break, him and I got back together and got married. Within that 12 years he had another child with ex

Whew wee's picture

When my husband I met, he had their oldest already. After him and I were together for a couple of years, he then went on to have another relationship with her, then after a  12 year break, him and I got back together and got married. Within that 12 years he had another child with ex

Thumper's picture

Maybe x and her dh were divorced, OP and her now husband got together had a baby and the NOW husband and his x got back together and hand another baby THEN got divorced again?

 

OP as much as I hate to say it....TRY your best to be polite. Ask yourself, CAN I live in the current reality for the next 10, 20, 30 years. Remember NO DAY DREAMING ABOUT HOW YOU WANT IT TO BE.

IF you can---then you will. IF You cant then start planning on your exit. But remember you have a child with your husband and your baby together will be put inside HIS world without you to look to.

Welcome to ST.....

hang in there.

Whew wee's picture

no...they were never married. My daughter has never met her

Disneyfan's picture

Not being married doesn't matter.  Bouncing between women and creating children each time around, speaks to his character.  If he were a BM, most here would call him a whore.

His actions are bound to impact how your SKs view/ feel about you.   

Whew wee's picture

I know being married doesn’t matter but I was speaking to ur response about me and his ex have both been stepmothers. She hasn’t been a stepmother to my child....

lieutenant_dad's picture

SS is an adult. He doesn't need to stay for longer than a dinner.

Tell SD that she can FT BM in her room ONLY. If she calls or Drs anywhere else in the house, the phone is gone.

If your DH has gone back to bed with her enough to produce two kids, then BM probably thinks they are meant to be together and you're the one in the way. She wants to create drama, and she is doing it.

So, limit FT or take the phone. Well, actually, DH needs to do that. If he won't, then what you have is a DH problem, not an SD problem.

Whew wee's picture

U r so correct. SK are scheduled to visit on 18th for 4 days...arrrggg!