Those of us with young SDs... are we doomed?
As most of you know, my SD is 6 and lives with us full time seeing BM on some holidays and part of summer. She’s an alright kid and we get along but there’s definitely some attitude from her towards me and BS but not so much dad. She’s respectful because we expect and demand it, but I know she doesn’t care for me as much as she does her parents naturally.
It makes me wonder... am I doomed for the teenage years? Is it almost certain she’s going to act out at me? I always think I’d like to treat her as my own and I try to, but we simply don’t love each other like mother/daughter. We do love each other but it’s not the same.
Her BM is total crap and doesn’t discipline or have rules when she sees her, so it’s always a process of fixing the attitude and disrespect when she gets home. I don’t know, I’m just trying to mentally prepare myself. They all get worse, don’t they... teenage girls with stepmoms?
Or maybe there’s someone who can tell me about good experiences they’ve seen or had.