BM's expectations of DH while she is on a cruise
BM went on her yearly cruise. She didn't have anyone available locally to watch SD, age 15, while she was gone due to SD's bad behavior. I work from home and she wasn't staying here with me and DH has to work.
She calls DH about 3 days prior to her going on the cruise and asked DH to take SD to her nieces house about 4 hours away. I was sitting next to DH when he received the call and he told her that he didn't know if he could do it but he would let her know. He knew the neice was a distance away but wasn't sure how much of a distance. BM calls him back and leaves him a voicemail. She tells dh that she can have her older BS take SD but DH would need to pick her up. Keep in mind there has NEVER been a time where dh agreed to any of this. BM calls dh just before she boards the ship and tells him to call her within an hour. DH couldn't contact her because he was at a drs appointment. He didn't get the message until after her deadline to call him back.He assumed she got on the ship and couldn't accept calls so he didn't call her back. Now, BM is sending DH an email informing him to call her neice and schedule a pick up time for SD.
BM had time to arrange for someone to take SD to her neices house but didn't have time to arrange for someone else to pick her up.
BM automatically assumes that if she tells dh to do something that he will do it. I have told DH numerous times that he needs to stop. I told him to send an email back to her and informing her that he never agreed to pick up SD and that he isn't going to do it. I told him to explain that she needs to stop assuming that he will do something. BM will find someone to pick her up. BM can actually pick her up when she gets back.
I have also been so frustrated with this woman. She demands DH do things. She has set up dr appointments and sent dh an email informing him to take SD to the dr appointment. She never really ask and she never accepts no for an answer. Then she gets angry if DH can't do it due to work or other obiligations.
Edited to add...I am not sure if DH is going to pick SD up or not. We do have a snow storm that will be coming through around the time he would need to pick up SD. I am not sure how bad the storm will be yet.