Acceptance of StepKids
I'm married to a man that has 2 kids. A 9 year old girl and a 6 year old boy. We have them every other week for a week. Their mother ran out on my husband with her cousin and now they live together. Maybe it's just me but i feel it is so hard to accept his kids into my life. It may sound wrong and selfish but I find it hard to accept another woman's child as mine and into my life. I know they are apart of him and she was before me but it's difficult when the kids constantly talk about her and bring her up and I'm constantly getting compared to her and having to hear about her. When I look at them I see her and it almost gives me an anxiety attack because I start seeing in my mind them together and i wonder what it was like when they were together and made love and I torture myself. I know it's silly but I'm only human. I thought after he and I had our son together things would be different but they aren't and I find it even harder to not resent them. He takes more time with them than he does with our son and when they're here he only really acknowledges me at night. I guess my question is how do you accept kids that are rude and disrespectful to you and their father does nothing about it? He won't discipline them and he let's them get away with EVERYTHiNG! I've been told I'm not her mama and if I dont do something for her or get her something that she wants its ok because her mama will. I'm tired of it and the same crap every week does anyone have any pointers on how I can get over this?