I drive myself crazy!
Any of you who have read my blogs, know that I am SM to SD7 who recently moved to live with her mom in Georgia. Yes, FH and I agreed to this arrangement because we are both young, and still in school and knew that we would barely have a fighting chance in court, as with many times before.
We made the arrangement pretty much exactly as we wanted.
-no child support
-we have her the entire summer, christmas break and every other spring break
-we can visit her for 7 days out of every month
Problem is. NOBODY supports our decision and sometimes I wear myself out thinking and pondering and wondering about what would have happened if we were to fight it.
I personally believe, she is better in Georgia, at least for now. Her stepbrother is there, she has a great SD, somewhat stable BM and her own room in a nice house. She loves coming to visit us and because she already was bonded to us before the move, she doesn't feel distant when she comes to visit.
I read all these blogs about people who hate how much time they have with their stepkids and I wonder, would I feel the same way if I were them? Before BM moved, we had SD7 every Thur-Sun which got to be quite demanding and tiring.
At the end of the day, FH and I are happy. SD7 is happy. Why cant that be what matters? Its all the people who tell us we are selfish and that FH is a neglectful dad and that she will be scarred for what he is doing. But we didn't choose to leave, BM did and instead of spending years and dollars fighting it, we figured SD7 would eventually choose her own path anyways.
What do you guys think? I'm really making myself crazy over here debating about everything!