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My stepdaughter had a baby and she don't like me!

lavada_129's picture

My stepdaughter had a baby and in order for my husband to see his grandson he can't be around me. He couldn't even go to the hosptial to see his grandson if I was going to be with him. She didn't even call him to tell him she had the baby because we are married. She has not liked me in over 2 yrs now. We use to like and get along very well but she got closer to her mom and things changed. When I first met her she use to disrespect her mother and more and now they are the best friends. Her and her mother keeps coming up with ways to get him by himself so they can take family pictures with the baby. It is really hurting me and I want to be apart of this. I feel I shouldn't have to be apart or separate from my husband I don't do that with my kids and him so why do I have to go through this. Every time it is this girls birthday she wants to be respectful and talk and then when it is over she is nasty until christmas. I made it a point this year she was not getting anything from me!!! She covers the baby face if I come around and everything. Any advice besides just leaving my husband at times so he can be with them. That is not an option. I don't trust them to be honest.

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majka's picture

I agree with the above... I am very sorry that you are going through this. I know that it is not fair, and that it must be very painful to you to be treated with such disrespect... covering her babys face when you are around?! Goodness... it sounds to me that this 'woman' is too imature to be raising a child herself... but again, it is what it is. Just try to detach yourself, and focus on you.

Ingrid's picture

I have a family member who is married to an older man...old school. He comes from a time when people acted appropriately, used manners and handled their business with dignity. I know, very different from our times.

Anyway, when his daughter was to be married, she wanted him to walk her down the isle. He agreed, of course. 2 weeks before the wedding, his daughter calls to tell him that her BMom would be uncomfortable if his Wife came to the wedding. She asked if they would consider her to be uninvited. He said, "I will not go anywhere or be involved in anything that my Wife is not invited or welcome to." He reminded her that this is not how she was raised and this is not how HIS family will be allowed to act.

His wife was re invited, he walked his daughter down the isle and BM sucked it up.

20 years later, everyone gets along fine.

I love a good story when Men take charge and handle their business. Don't you? What happened to our generation?

Ingrid's picture

I have a family member who is married to an older man...old school. He comes from a time when people acted appropriately, used manners and handled their business with dignity. I know, very different from our times.

Anyway, when his daughter was to be married, she wanted him to walk her down the isle. He agreed, of course. 2 weeks before the wedding, his daughter calls to tell him that her BMom would be uncomfortable if his Wife came to the wedding. She asked if they would consider her to be uninvited. He said, "I will not go anywhere or be involved in anything that my Wife is not invited or welcome to." He reminded her that this is not how she was raised and this is not how HIS family will be allowed to act.

His wife was re invited, he walked his daughter down the isle and BM sucked it up.

20 years later, everyone gets along fine.

I love a good story when Men take charge and handle their business. Don't you? What happened to our generation?

Ingrid's picture

I have a family member who is married to an older man...old school. He comes from a time when people acted appropriately, used manners and handled their business with dignity. I know, very different from our times.

Anyway, when his daughter was to be married, she wanted him to walk her down the isle. He agreed, of course. 2 weeks before the wedding, his daughter calls to tell him that her BMom would be uncomfortable if his Wife came to the wedding. She asked if they would consider her to be uninvited. He said, "I will not go anywhere or be involved in anything that my Wife is not invited or welcome to." He reminded her that this is not how she was raised and this is not how HIS family will be allowed to act.

His wife was re invited, he walked his daughter down the isle and BM sucked it up.

20 years later, everyone gets along fine.

I love a good story when Men take charge and handle their business. Don't you? What happened to our generation?

Ingrid's picture

LOL. Sorry guys. My computer froze up and I kept pushing buttons. Didn't mean to re post over and over.

ThatGirl's picture

Your husband should put his foot down and tell her that her behavior towards you in unacceptable. You are a team. I would NEVER allow my children to treat my SO in that manner. If one of them said I could come visit, but only w/o SO, I would decline and say, "maybe another time when you've grown up and the both of us can come."

lavada_129's picture

Thanks!

lavada_129's picture

Yeah maybe that is what my husband said so far no she didn't say anything like that yet though.