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So, this is the song BM dedicated to my DH on her FB...

stormabruin's picture

BM has no idea we have access to her Facebook page, yet she posted this video in dedication to my DH. She screwed up their marriage & was the one who chose to leave over & over. I feel like a dumbass for feeling this way, but I kind of feel sorry for her...

"White Flag"

I know you think that I shouldn't still love you,
Or tell you that.
But if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it
where's the sense in that?

I promise I'm not trying to make your life harder
Or return to where we were

I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be

I know I left too much mess and
destruction to come back again
And I caused nothing but trouble
I understand if you can't talk to me again
And if you live by the rules of "it's over"
then I'm sure that that makes sense

I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be

And when we meet
Which I'm sure we will
All that was there
Will be there still
I'll let it pass
And hold my tongue
And you will think
That I've moved on....

I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be

I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be

I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be

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stormabruin's picture

One would hope, but I truly would be surprised if she were mortified or embarrassed in the least. She'd just be pissed that I'd gotten access to her page.

stormabruin's picture

The woman is crazy. She'd never get over it. For some reason, she insists on being the troll that lives under it.

stormabruin's picture

She has her page with everything set to private. SIL set up a fake account of some random guy & sent a friend request & not surprising at all, she accepted.

Thing is, she has this "boyfriend" that has been in & out of her house a number of times over the last 5-6 years. He's a doormat. He pays her bills & stays as long as she'll allow him to, but when she gets a wild hair, or if he speaks up about something she's done wrong, she throws him out until bills come due again. In fact, there have been times he's paid her rent & utilities AFTER she's thrown him out. If he had a little bit of self-esteem, he'd be a really decent guy. She just accepted a friend request from him...again...2 days ago, & then posted this dedication to DH this morning. So, of course, the BF is going to see it. Sadly, he'll stay with her anyway. I have NO idea what the guy sees in her, aside from him just being so blinded by "love" he can't see her foot in his face everytime he tries to speak up for himself. He ALWAYS accepts ALL of the blame for EVERYTHING when they break up. He won't date other women. He simply accepts the idea of having to "love her from a distance" when she throws him out.

I'm not surprised, at all, that she still has feelings for DH. I've known it. I just never imagined she would feel so deeply about it, & seriously...11 years later???

skylarksms's picture

Isn't is amazing? FB was the way I just found out yesterday that BM took SS15 to Mayo Clinic for something that we STILL don't know what!?!?!

DH wanted to know how often I "spy" on people on FB... :?

stormabruin's picture

I keep DH posted on BM & skids & what they post. We have no contact with them, so FB spying is how we keep up with them as they grow. I have to admit, I am more into it & will delve & search with vigor to get information. I think DH would be fine without the updates. LOL!

skylarksms's picture

The only FB pages I check out that they don't know is my Skids and BM.

Since BM broke the court order of "no contact" to scream at my DH regarding SD being pregnant @ 16, he has broken off all communication with BM, except by letter. I don't agree but then again, I see his point about what a crappy way to find out you're gonna be a grandparent! But he is going to talk to SS this weekend when he is down for a visit to see what is wrong.

BTW, BM told SD and SS not to tell us that she got married and is 4 months pregnant but she put it as her status on her non-private FB page!! Blum 3 Ha! I guess she isn't as smart as I give her credit for.

stormabruin's picture

BM will be 39 in November. I would like to think she'd be horrified to find out I'd seen it, but truthfully, I'm not convinced. I haven't told DH, & he never does anything with internet, so he won't see it. I'm debating whether it's something to mention, or something I just need to leave alone.

AVR1962's picture

BM obviously working thru her own emotionals but to do it on FaceBook? I won't judge as I have made some poor choices myself and when we are not in out right mind things like this can happen without us realizing what a mistake we have just made. Sometimes it takes a brick to the head (expression) get thru. It's not uncommon for us to regret choices. I would just let this one go like you didn't see it.

stormabruin's picture

I don't see reason to pass the message on to DH. She left him & the kids 4 times. She claimed to regret it every time. I think she only regrets her choice because he's happy with someone else. If he were miserable without her, she'd be fine.

dakotamom's picture

my DH's exgf from 9 years ago will send my Dh text messages on the anniversary of the day they met. this year had something like happy anniversary i can't believe you've given your heart to another, you will always hold a special place in my heart. love you forever....
what a dumb bitch. DH didn't respond back her but i'm thinking how sad are these women that can't move on with their life especially when THEY LEFT these so called perfect men. DH said that he tried to make it work with this lady and that she was the one that left him and he hasn't looked back since in the 9 years and especially since i came around there is no way in hell there would be a reunion.
personally i think it's sad and pathetic that these women can't move on and for your DH's exw to post it on facebook...if a friend of mine did that i'd smack her upside the head and say WTF is your problem - that's pathetic!!! MOVE ON!! HE HAS!!!

stormabruin's picture

BM used to call & leave messages for DH on his birthday & anniversary. Oddly enough, their anniversary was on April Fool's Day. I've made him aware of the fact that he pretty well asked for what he got in choosing that day. LOL!

Her & the kids would leave messages singing the Happy Anniversary song on his voicemail & then she would leave her own little message about how she still thinks of the 4 of them as a family...blah, blah, blah. This happened for 6 years after he & I moved in together. You'd think if she had any dignity in her, it would've stopped when he moved in with another woman. I do go back & forth with feeling sorry for her & feeling just absolutely livid & sometimes I feel like I can truly forgive her for what she's done & move forward, but then I find myself rehashing everything she's ever done, & then I wish she could find true happiness so we could all heal. It's overwhelming sometimes trying to figure out how to cope with all the crap.

stormabruin's picture

Yep. She supposedly is starting chemo Sept 1st & has dedicated songs to skids & her mom & brother, dad, stepdads (both of them) & now DH.

stormabruin's picture

LMAO! If she wasn't the last house on a dead-end road, I'd likely find it soothing to do it.

PoisonApples's picture

Well, you could post it to her. Wear gloves when you wrap the package though.

Here's a link to the video on youtube.

stormabruin's picture

Hahaha! That's the same one she posted. She commented that "whoever took the photo of the horses with the backgrownd had epic talent". (Yes, she spelled background with a "w").

zenjetset's picture

We don't have access to bm fb but sd11 does. I've Bern curious bur not enough to stand over her shoulder when she enters the pass code. I already have had my own personal dealings with her, enough to conclude she is a narcissist, hateful bitch that cares for no one but herself!

txcajunmom's picture

i ck bm's fb on occasion. i try not to becuase i usually get pissed off lol but hey there have been times where she would tell dh one thing and announce to the world something totally different like where his kids were, etc. you know important things... one time she actually put as her status: just got my hair and nails done, thanks baby daddys... WTF??!!

txcajunmom's picture

believe me i am kickin my self in the butt now for not doing that!! it's gone now...go figure.

stormabruin's picture

So, the boyfriend who sometimes feels he must "love her from a distance" just "liked" her dedication. WTF???