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jojo68's picture

I am really considering going to a family counselor to help me cope with my feelings. I was just curious if any of you have been through counseling and did it help your situation.

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Last-Wife's picture

It has helped me tremendously- even though DH has stopped going with me. She has helped me identify things I didn't even realize were problems and how to deal with them.

She's given me a "toolbox" of tips to help me face recurring situations in our house. She's the best!

"I HAD to pick the road less traveled..."

folkmom's picture

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jojo68's picture

That is what I was thinking too. It would help me to have a third party to talk to since you girls are really the only one's I have that I can "talk" to about my true feelings Smile

folkmom's picture

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jojo68's picture

Yes I am in Texas! I live on the coast (Corpus Christi). It would be so fun to meet up...have a girls day out! I do know about flaky therapists. I went to marriage counseling and had a therapist that had me pegged all wrong. Because my exhusband put on an amazing show, she took his side and made me out to be the evil villian. When she did that I completely shut her out and needless to say...It didn't work out at all. A big issue that my ex and I had was that he really took me for granted. I worked 50 hours+ a week (he worked less than 40) and then had to come home and do everything else including the yard while he sat on his butt and watched TV. A grown man of the age of 48 should not have to be told that knee high grass needed to be mowed. My therapist told me I was controlling and didn't communicate because I didn't tell him to cut the yard. Perhaps she was right in that I should have told him I needed help but that doesn't make me controlling. She was completely biased on his behalf. Ridiculous

Most Evil's picture

I have been in counseling several times over the years and it has always helped me tremendously.

It is important though, like they said, that you not just blindly accept what they say, especially in a step situation, ex. you are not allowed to insist on respect in your house.

That did happen to me, so the only reason I went back is to explain, that I do not agree with that at all. Sometimes it only helps you define what you really do believe in. But I think that is important too, that you learn to trust your own judgement.
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