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NachoMama's picture

Why do I let things that have NOTHING to do with me bother me so much? If it doesn't bother DH....why should I stress over it??? This goes back to his ungrateful daughter of course. DH has not seen her since Christmas (for the whole hour she came to see us) and ONCE AGAIN....she was in town where WE live this weekend(she lives 2 hours away) attending something for DHs ex that would have been her SM over 10 years ago for maybe ONE WHOLE YEAR!!!! Did she bother to call DH and let him know she was here???? Of course not! It also makes me more than a little ill that she keeps up a relationship with a woman that I can't stand and that still calls her SD....when she isn't and hasn't been for YEARS!!!(I don't know how SHE is SD17 SM when I am the one married to DH) I am pretty sure the woman does it to get under my skin.....but whatever they are all a little strange if you ask me. It just bothers me that DH will not say a WORD to SD for doing this. I mean...when is enough ENOUGH!!!! I don't care if she wants to see me because I personally do not care to see her....but that is her FATHER and she treats him like shit! I have had it....but it really has nothing to do with me and I get SO angry!!!I hate to see these ungrateful kids treat MY DH like he is nothing more than a money tree!!! Because that is the ONLY time that SD17 EVER bothers to come around. I don't know what to do to separate myself from it. I know that he is going to drive up there and take that little spoiled brat out to dinner....and I really don't think he should. But I can't tell him not to see his kid. Great I just gave myself another headache.......Happy Monday everyone.....

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starfish's picture

good point, nacho! i do the same thing --- mine more in particular with mil (and bm on occassion) --- shit that doesn't even really affect me --- and dh just lets it roll off his shoulders, but not me... i get so pissed off and outraged...

i was pissed at mil thursday about some fishing trip she planned for ss on bm's weekend.... well turns out they didn't go... i have to wonder if it is b/c dh declined the last minute invite mil instructed ss to blindside dh with or what? but now i know that stupid trip is lingering in the background and can't wait to see when mil is going to spring it on us -- last minute -- again... this is the last thing on dhs mind....

kinda funny when you think about it... thanks for bringing this to my attention.... i need to think about the big picture and how or even if it affects me before i start mind fucking myself and getting angry over stupid stuff!

NachoMama's picture

I will obsess over it!!! DH just gives me a look and tells me to drop it....and I want to scream at him: WHY DO YOU LET SD TREAT YOU LIKE THAT?!?!?! Ugh...it makes me sick to my stomach! And he has to go to court today for SS11.....and supposedly BM has some crap that she printed off the computer that I wrote to SS11 (which I did but the most offensive thing I said was brat so who knows what that bitch is up to). I told DH that he better remind BM that SS11 said that he wasn't the one typing to me on the computer that it was his cousin (YEAH right!!! SS11 is THE biggest effin liar!) if she tried to pull some shit. DH said that he was sure she had forgotten all about it and to let it go. Well she may have forgotten but I sure haven't!!!! AHHHHHH!!!! What did I get myself into?!?!?!?

****I can do bad all by myself****

starfish's picture

don't obsess -- F it.... be happy she lives 2 hours away... be happy she didn't call and upset your apple cart while she was in your town....

what's court about?

NachoMama's picture

"Failure to Provide" BM claims that she didn't receive her CS back in Oct.....DH has the paystubs where it clearly shows it DID INDEED come out of DH check....trust me we would have noticed a big difference in our account if it hadn't! HAHA Now where it went??? I don't know but DH didn't keep it from her.....she probably smoked it or snorted it and doesn't remember!

You are right though! I AM glad that she didn't call and come by my house! Good way to look at it! Wink

****I can do bad all by myself****

Elizabeth's picture

Oh, I so can sympathize with you but I don't have the answer either. SD17 frequently drives the hour to our town and does NOT come see DH or even let him know she is here. She will come shopping or come see a friend or come watch her boyfriend play baseball and DH is never informed about it. He may find out about it after the fact. SD17 did NOT come down for Christmas or her own birthday. She did NOT acknowledge DH's birthday. And yet DH gave SD17 money for her birthday and for prom. She TEXTED a thank you for the money. That's all DH has heard from her. I have gotten to the point where if he thinks that's acceptable behavior from HIS child, so be it. I'll make sure my own don't turn out the same way, but that's all I can do.

NachoMama's picture

Well your SD sounds alot like mine! I was a little peeved at Christmas when she came down and brought her BF. There is nothing wrong with him....he's a good kid. (She's only with him because his parents are loaded! She has all but told me this herself) But she's up his butt 24/7! I mean really....you couldn't leave him at home to come see your dad???? And of course DH sees no problem with it and told SD that when her BF goes to college...which is in our town...that THEY could come stay at our house. I think he must have SERIOUSLY lost his mind. I told him NO they would NOT be spending the night in MY house together! He does stupid crap like that to get the little witch to come over.

****I can do bad all by myself****