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Ani's picture

My SS13 has the habit of locking the door to his room everytime he goes in there. The problem is that he falls asleep or acts like he is asleep and his dad can't open the door to order him to take his shower or do his homework, Its like a nightmare everynight here. Kid locks door, that starts screaming for him to open it up, then kid doesn't open door, dad gets very mad and finaly opens the door by forcing it open.....after about 30-45 mins of trying. Kid then takes about another an hour to take his shower since he falls asleep again afther he locks his door again. Any ideas I just can't stand it anymore....I get a headache on the spot? Thanks...

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Amazed's picture

Change the doorknob to one without a lock...that is what we had to do...dh bought knob set at home depot and took him 10mins to change it out. Problem solved:) ***"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

mystiery's picture

Take the lock off the door or change the door knob to one without a lock on it. and if all else fails take the whole door off.

StepChicka's picture

"...and if all else fails take the whole door off."

my most favorite punishment }:)

stepmom008's picture

I love it! I'm going to file that one away for the teenage years.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

Pantera's picture

Didn't meanpocahantas just do that? lol. I think its a great idea but there may be a reason he's locking the door.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

stepmom008's picture

Is is possible that we've got a crankyanker? Sorry - I'm at my best/worst in the morning: I mean a teenage boy with flowing hormones?

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

Snowbunny's picture

Our SD actually begged us to take the door off her room because she thought it'd be way cooler to have a curtain of beads hanging down from the door frame. We told her no because they we'd have no way to hiding the federal disaster area this is her bedroom most days. Blum 3

StepChicka's picture

Remove the lock but make sure you guys knock when the door is shut. He's 13 and has found his winkey. which might be the reason he's taking long showers too. Please knock or you'll both be traumatized.

Long showers can be cut by turning off the water. My stepdad did that too me...once...lol
And no I wasn't doing anything other than bathing.

Pantera's picture

My thoughts exactly.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

stepmom2one's picture

Like everyone else said, take off the lock. Even if you rent, just keep the old knob and replace before you move. Then he could earn the privie back with good behavior.

truelightbeing's picture

With 4 kids in our house of 9-14 in age you can image privacy may be in short supply.
Well everyone has the regular push button locks, however we do not allow locking of doors except
by me and my honey ofcourse. Doors can be closed and everyone is expected to knock and wait to be allowed in.
There is alot of good advice listed above. Unless you think your son is into anything really inappropriate then you might not want to be to hard on him. Keep in mind his age, being a young teenage boy it might be better not to think of what he might be self-exploring about in there, speaking as a once teen boy. LOL
Now is he has a computer in there then I would give him the choice of moving it to an open family
area or remove the doors lock.

"Love is harmony and harmony is the vibration of the music that binds the universe."

Snowbunny's picture

Do you not a have key for this door? If not you could replace it with a knob that includes keys (or the push button locks that you can open with a bobby pin), so the boy would be able to have the comfort of locking his door but you could also get in if you had to, like when he falls asleep. I kind of like the idea of letting him have a locking door, because as others have said he is a pubescent boy and this kind of privacy is likely very important to him. I would just make sure it's a lock that do have a means of opening when necessary.

txstepmom32's picture

Coming from a "military family" and having a child with some "behavorial modification" issues, I would suggest first, removing the door until they can earn it back.