I know!! Honestly its eaiser to pay her the money, document it, and then bring it up in court. She is also getting food stamps and govt day car assistance that she is not claiming so she is going to have that against her. We didn't even realize that until she filed her taxes the other day and saw she didn't claim it. We always ask where these "poor single mothers" are who are recieving all this money. I guess I have a different POV about single mom's b/c my mom paid her way through law school, working as a waitress, with my sister when she was 2 years old.

Thanks! We both love being in the military. Being apart sucks though when either one of us has to deploy. A lot of it is last minute and sucks. I think that was a major thing in DBf and DumbBunny's relationship. They were high school sweethearts (ick) and so when he had to go on missions all the time, she was always bitching about it. Saying stuff like "well I'm glad you get to leave me and your son at home" blah blah. She treated it as if we had/have a choice. She is still in the area and has become a "townie". Our base is in the middle of nowhere and there is only a small town. She applied for a job at the local bar where EVERYONE goes and we always see ex-spouses there. At this point we have to just sit back and laugh. We have a beautiful house together, we love eachother very much, and we are raising the little guy very well (i think so at leat.) When we met, I had just gone through a horrible breakup about 6 months before and he had just left HER for the second time. We were just friends and hung out a lot and that developed over a few months and we became serious. A relationship was the last thing either of us wanted and what do ya know... we ended up developing a beautiful relationship. We just bought the final things for our house to be complete, some pictures and paintings for our walls, and she saw them last night. She always has some snarky comment about our home or anything. She made him a "potty chart" and had made an extra one for our house. We actually had bought stuff for a potty chart about a month ago and just never made it. Well that sent her REEEEEEELING because his thing is stuff from the cars movie so I went to michaels and bought cars stickers, poster board, markers, etc and made an amazing potty chart. He gets a little sticker and one gummy bear for trying, a bigger sticker and two gummy bears for pee-pee, and a very big sticker and 3 gummy bears for poopy! LOL. She was so livid. It makes me sick because its never about the little guy, its always about HER. She is so selfish and seriously the ONLY reason she didn't want to do 50/50 is because it would "look bad." She threw out the "well Idaho is a mothers right state" and we just lost our minds. I'm sure it is, but you know what, a Judge knows better than that. Like I said earlier, she views having little guy as "having to watch him" and we veiw it as "getting to be with him." She is always pissed off that we take him places and do fun things with him. We have told her over and over that if she got a "real" job then she would be able to do the same stuff. She complains that the 4 hours a day, 4 days a week that she works is "sooo hard", believe me its not, and the 3 hours of "school" every day is too hard. I'm a Medic in the Air Force and she is going to a medical certification and she always is SO jealous of the stuff I can do and how she will never be able to do any of that. My DBF always says how proud of me he is and I'm so proud of him. I would do anything for the little guy. Even though we aren't married, DBF still refers to me as his Step Mom. I love both of them so much and call them "my boys." I'm so happy to have found such a great community of women/men/SMs?SF's/BM's, etc who are so supportive. Thank you guys for always sharing your nuts-o stories and giving supportive, but still great, advice. When I'm having a crappy day I just log on and read the posts.