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Please advise...I feel like I'm making a mistake

Nymh's picture

BM has been sooo pleasant lately it's almost bordering on the point of unsettling. She even sent an email to BF yesterday saying she hoped that they could get past the point of anger to being able to work together and be civil for SS's sake. She went on to say that they had the next 10 years ahead of them (SS is eight) and it would be easier on everyone if we could just get along. Well, yesterday my lawyer called me to inform me that everything was finally put together to file for my restraining order against BM.

Mothers day ~

newstep07's picture

Dh called the X today to arrange her mothers day visit with the kids... she is court ordered to have them from 8 30 to 8 pm on the day ONLY. Not really possible when you live FOUR freaking hours away! So he was going to bring the kids to meeting place on friday night IF she would bring them to pick up at a reasonable time in the evening on sunday since they have school on monday.. of course she said NO WAY - I have them till 8 pm or else this will be used in your CONTEMPT hearing the next week. SHe could care less that the kids get home after 10 pm on a school night. NICE MOM!

indecent expousor?

peachymom's picture

I got a call from BM saying that me breastfeeding my daughter in front of SS6 is causing problems. That it's causing him to ask a bunch of questions, that she doesn't want to answer. But I don't think that a bad thing. Most kids have questions about sexuality at this age any ways. While I was pregrante he had lots of questions. would it cause mental problems for a six year old to watch me breastfeed a baby? it's not like I'm walking around topless.

gunna decortate

peachymom's picture

Well thanks to everyones good advice I went out to walmart and got the stuff to decorate the room. We have decided that the majority of the room will be for our daughter, and SS6 will still have his bed and posters in there and a special shelf for his stuff. But I'm moving in all the babies stuff this week. I told SS this, and boy was he not happy, but we said that it was time. And we explained that he has his own room at his mom's house that he was able to decortate any way he wanted.

Any thoughts?

erin82's picture

I am new and this is my first blog. My stepson is six years old. We have a good relationship, actually, although right now he is suffering from the split loyalty feeling between his mother and me. His mother has chosen not to try and make a good relationship with each other for his sake. She has even legally forbidden me to speak to her about my stepson. In the three years I have been apart of his life, I have only spoken to his mother once. That's right, just once at a T-Ball game and we did not get into an argument or part on bad terms.

Any Ideas?

Beating my head against a wall's picture

First off, Hello to all. I am new here. I am hoping to get some good advice from someone. My Husband and I have been married for 6 yrs. now, and his boys have lived here for 3 of those years. BM lives 900 miles from here and my husband drives truck and is gone 3 weeks at a time. I am here with the boys. Appearently I am not supposed to have any control over the children that I take care of. Everytime I have to pass down a punishment I hear about it from the BM.

Now I understand ........but I am afraid of what I might do.

Wifi's picture

Now I get it. How a child can live in your home (40% of the time)recieve all the love and attention you and your husband can muster and then go to his BM and tell her how bad you hate it when you are with them.

(Now keep in mind when I was a youngin and my BM did not like my SM, I would do the same thing. I talked horribly about my SM. And this would make my mom feel better (by securing her position) and yet me more loved- so I thought.?)

Housing, Transportation and Frustration

marika's picture

SD had her interview with HUD and was told there might be an apartment ready by the end of June, so there is a light at the end of the tunnel. She also has her own transportation now, so DH and I are no longer the taxi service and she gets to find out just how expensive gas is. However, my jaw about hit the floor when DH asked her if she would take him somewhere today so I could have the car for work, thereby allowing him to sleep in for a change and she was unwilling to do it! She said he could take her car since she didn't have to work, but she didn't want to drive him.

The Start

peachymom's picture

When I first got Pregnante with my daughter, we told SS right away, he even came to doctors appointments with me sometimes. And everything was going good. I wanted to start doing things in the bedroom while I was pregante, to give SS more time to get used to it, but DH wouldn't agree. SS seemed ok with the idea of having a baby sister while I was pregnate. But now, it just gets worse everyweekend. How much extra father son time should my DH be sepending with SS on the weekends?

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