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How to detach or do I?

Stepmom_C's picture

I'm not sure where to begin. My SD10 and SD6 live with me and DH is primary custodian. I also have a BD14 who lives with us 100% of the time. Problem? For the past 3 years I feel as though I've been catering to my SD's and my BD is missing out. They have an abusive BM but I'm starting to notice more (now that they are older) it seems they are "playing" both sides of the parenting fence. I know it's typical in many divorced situations but I guess I thought our family was different because we have them the majority of the time.

Boyfriend and I just HAD IT OUT now I don't know how to heal...

patient but frustrated's picture

All this stress just made me explode. BF and I have been IMing all day, as he seems to communicate better on the IM than in person sometimes. I finally spilled my guts about how I feel about how I am being treated, and addressed every issue I have. At first I tried to be gentle and loving, but it ended badly. I don't know if we will get over this. He made a comment to me that just pissed me off in a way I have never known I could be pissed off. I am so tempted to post that entire conversation up here, but I'm trying to check myself and my anger right now.

Am I crazy?

mumm2five's picture

It's been a long couple of weeks. I've pretty much been going crazy. I don't know how you all do it. DH talks to BM2 a couple of times a week. They have been talking about what happened between them, which I hate and told him so, he said I was right and there was no reason for him to talk to her except about SS. But he said he can't stop talking to her because she'll make it hard for him to see SS when he gets home. I said what's worse problems with her or problems with me...lol.

Took a Hiatus

Mocha2001's picture

It’s been awhile since I posted. Thanks for all of the support, ladies. I took my hiatus because Erik and I fought so badly one night over Andrea’s behavior (or lack there of). I just wasn’t sure if loving Erik and Jacob was worth putting up with Andrea. I’m still not sure, but we are trying some new things, and hopefully they will work. This email will be a bit long, in order to catch everyone up on things.

Part 11. The aftermath of an evil SD. Also, I could use some advice, please?

Empty Risks's picture

Hi all.

What's done is done, and I have said to my "D"H what had needed to be said. I am done dealing with the psychosis, break-downs, drama, abuse, worries, fears, etc. I can no longer live like that and I won't have my sons living it, either. I know my limits, and I have no more to offer because frankly....I am not a saint, and I am clueless on how to deal/fix or cope with any of it anymore.

Hey Gals, I've missed you.

Little Jo's picture

I'm sorry I haven't been there for you in the last few weeks, things have been alittle crazy. I will keep this brief as possible.

SD12 stayed with us for almost a month. DK made it very clear the skids are at least trying the move. So the little bedroom still has some of her stuff in it. They all leave by 9/1. 2 hours away.

The Birthday party (conclusion)

patient but frustrated's picture

Well, we did have a party for ss. (See blog...it's hitting the fan and I need advice.) We had a constant stream of phone calls from BM trying to sabotage it, as we expected. But HE (ss) did NOT get to leave ....(so proud of BF)and she is in all out war mode right now. BF explained to him that what BM did was wrong and that BM couldn't tell him (BF) what he could and couldn't do during the times that ss is with us and explained that when ss was with BM that he (BF) couldn't tell her what to do.

I made sd cry

bonusmom's picture

Thursday night sd was being kinda hateful real snotty and usually I just blow it off well I am sick of it so I jumped her butt and made her cry...I was on the phone with my mom and sd kept telling my son to pick up his toys in which he did need to do but it was not her place to tell him what to do so when she said to him "Pick up your toys or your going to your room" I said "I am his mother not you and if he needs to do something I will be the one to tell him" her jaw dropped she didn't know what to think she sat there for a minute and then went to her room a few minutes later my son said "

It's Hitting the Fan and I need advice...

patient but frustrated's picture

We are having a birthday party for ss in a couple of hours. BGranM (AKA Ex) has been doing everything to sabotage this. He is turning 8 next Sat, but this is our weekend. Ex just called and told child "We are doing this and that with so and so and such and such..' and if you would rather do that there is nothing they can do to stop you blah blah...Child hung up the phone with her and announced to us after he opens his presents he is leaving to go to such and such and that there is nothing we can do to stop him.

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